i noticed today.sorry for posting
 

Sorry sorry sorry for keep posting here. Im so annoying, i know it, but i need your help and advice once again. If im bothering you please tell me.

Well as shellz1986 had made a post here about her obssession with her GP, and if anyone with BPD has obssessions like this, i had replied that for a period of time i was kinda obssessed with my mom, i mean i was sure she would die and that it would be the last time i ever saw her and that she would leave me. Well i noticed today that im obssessed, like shellz1986, with other 2 people. i started being obssessed with them when they showed me that they care about me so much. They aren't close people to me, the one is a teacher and the other is a lady at a store. They both showed me they care about me and i like them really much. I used to like the teacher and before, but when she was mad at me i hated her and now that she cares about me,i love her. I don't know why it happens. It only happens with women, why is that? does it mean im a lesbian??

omg, whats wrong with me??i haven't been diagnosed with bpd.

Oh, I'm exactly the same hun, I haven't been diagnosed with anything though...sorry no help I know...

its ok hun. just knowing that im not alone in this, is help!

I have just read over this, and i neer knew that something liek this excided (sp)! I always thought it was just me..When someone goes away orlike I don't talk to them anymore I always morun them like they are dead but they really aren't. Like I am obseed with seeing my consllour and dcotor like when I see them it I sometimes make up things just to see them again. Maybe I want attentiopn I don't know and it drives me nuts. Sorry its hard to explain

I get so many obsessions- some pass within days some go on for ages.
If your worried, perhaps you should talk to your psych or GP or the likes?
xxx

There are other disorders that have this symptom, not just BPD. The only other one i can think of, off the the top of my head is Dependent PD.

It would be better going to the doc to talk about this.

Mari is right.

As you already know hun, im right there with you. Not sure how to help though apart from to tell you that you are not alone. xxxx

thanks!! i will try talking to my doctor about it. i told my therapist, but she didn't say anything.

i saw the teacher im obsessed with today. she almost hugged me. i started thinking about her again now. everytime i see her, it happens. its like im in love with her. i feel like a lesbian, only that i don't see her sexually, i can't really explain it. its so annoying. i can't stop thinking about her now.

I think it happens to everyone.
I was obsessed with a girl.
she ended up being my girlfriend
but the weird thing was i was obsessed with her way before she knew me.
I would wait all day to talk to her online and she didnt even know my name.
i think everyone has someone like this. someone they love as a friend or more.

wow, I thought I was the only person who thoguht like this, but now I know that I'm not. THANKS!

I'm obesessed with people leaving, if I'm going home or going anywhere really, I have to make sure that I thank people and say goodbye to them just incase I don't ever see them again. the likelihood of that actually happening is very minimal but I still have to do it. if I do leave without saying goodbye, I stress about it and will often go back or contact them again just to say goodbye.

It can happen with 2 people at the same time.like now.one is my teacher and the other is a woman at a store.i wanted to see her and i went there but she hadnt come and i was upset.it happens when they care about me,i mean if they hug me or sit with me it trigers me to be obsessed with them.

I had this kind of thing with one of my teachers - i dont quite know why though!
Maybe its because when people have been mistreated and havnt had any mother/father figures, or somehow they feel alone, they feel the need to attach themselves to someone they feel are reliable.
Haha i dont even know what im talking about but i do know how you feel! You should go to your doctor and talk about this. :)
Hope you feel alot better very soon!
xxx

thanks. i will see my doctor on monday and explain everything.thanks.

omg, I just saw this thread, and I always thought I was alone and just crazy or something, but I feel exactly the same way sometimes. I've thought about why it is quite a bit. It's not sexual really, so I don't think it has anything to do with your sexual orientation - I think it's kind of analogous to having a crush on someone except for a parent figure instead of a sexual partner if that makes sense. At least for me, it's always people a lot older than me, like teachers or whatever, who I think I can see as taking care of me. I remember it even from when I was like 13 or so. And I think it's cause like, I'm not sure if I can explain it, but even though my mom was there for me as a kid, I always kind of distance myself from her, and like refused to be touched or stuff, so I never let her hug me or anything, so then I think it's kind of that I still want the stuff I missed out on from that, with being cared for, and, well, hugged and stuff.

But then at least for me, I never talk to people, so there's never been any chance that I'd ever actually get any of the stuff I was hoping for. And whenever I have the opportunity to get even a little bit close to someone, I kind of avoid it and just run away, so I guess I'm kind of dooming myself to the same cycle forever.

But yeah, the point was meant to be that I can totally related to what you're saying...

it happens with people that are older than me too. Maybe you are right. I never let my mom hug me, but i don't care about other people doing so.

have you told anyone about this?

I haven't told anyone about it. I can't imagine ever telling anyone.

I'm okay with people besides my mom hugging me too... I find this is really interesting, cause I'm pretty sure there's nothing in the DSM that even comes close (dependent pd maybe a little in the etiology, and borderline has the attachment thing, but it's more about emotional regulation really) - I think we're coming up with a new disorder here :-p

idk, it seems like some aspects of psychoanalysis could really fit here though...

maybe its personality disorder NOS?

NOS just means they haven't done enough research yet to be any more specific.

i thought that NOS means that they don't meet the full criteria of any personality disorder.

Hmm, I have the same problem at the moment :S

Take care
xxx

Yeah, that's what NOS officially means. But the way the diagnostic system is intended to work, there shouldn't be diagnoses that essentially say "we know this person has a disorder, and it's similar to these other disorders, but it's not any specific disorder." It's not like there's some finite number of disorders that exist, and they're all listed in the DSM - the number of recognized disorders has increased with each edition of the DSM, as research uncovered more distinct patterns of psychopathology. So it stands to reason that distinct patterns of behavior that emerge within a NOS category represent a disorder that simply hasn't been described yet.