Richard/Abintra.
 

RYL Members,

It is with a very heavy heart that I have to announce that Richard has sadly passed away. The details of his death are unconfirmed and it would be doing a disservice to Richard to speculate on that.

Richard was a member of RYL for a very long time and he posted both on the forum and spent a lot of time in chat. Richard was sarcastic, funny and sometimes offended people but he was also caring, sweet and would do anything for his friends. He had passionate beliefs and morals which he would always stand by.

I don't think I could make a thread about Richard without mentioning his son, who he loved dearly and would do anything for.

He will be sadly missed by members of this community. Richard and I clashed a few times on RYL however he was always there for me and I always counted him as a friend. Chat especially will be a much quieter place without him.

Rest in peace Richard.

Please feel free to use this thread to remember him.

Liv.

If anyone needs any support Sophia has pledged to have Live Help more available for the next few days, you can also contact the supporters via email. The chat mods inbox and the forum mods inbox are also open if anyone would like to discuss this. You also have each other and in times of grief the best people to talk to are your friends.

Very sad news. RIP Richard.

RIP Richard, I hope you have finally found peace x

RIP Richard

RIP Richard, I am glad you are no longer in pain.

Oh God :(
RIP. We argued a lot but I'll miss you.

The only other person I know that hated Nirvana as much as I do. RIP Richard.

I primarily had dealings with Richard as a mod! But I always liked him and he was always an argumentative asset to RYL

RIP Richard. Didn't always get on but we exchanged PMs a few times and he was very kind to me.
Very sad news.

Oh jeez. Rip Richard. :(

His soul was more beautiful than anyone who assumed there was nothing more to him than sarcasm. The last thing he ever said to me was, "you're a beautiful person." He was the beautiful person. He still is. His soul and his memory. It hurts so much thinking about all the times we talked but I'm glad those times existed. I'm glad he knew I loved him, or at least I hope he did. This is so ****ing hard. Those of us who knew him need a get together to talk about that crazy bastard.

RIP Richard.

This is really sad news. We never spoke but you did make me laugh a few times on the boards!

I'm thinking of those of you who are grieving in this difficult time.

I never spoke to Richard but I recognised him on the boards. You never realise what an impression someone makes online until they've gone. This is very sad and his friends and family are in my thoughts x

He was in chat the other day there what a horrible shock :sad:

I didn't know Richard, but I'm very sad to hear we've lost another valuable member of our community. I'm sorry I didn't know him, I think I'd have liked him, a lot!

My heart and thoughts are with all who knew him. Try to remember that it's normal to feel a range of emotions while grieving, and that's ok. And Ryl is of course always here for you all.

Rip Richard, wish I'd had a chance to know you.

I've been thinking of what i could write, just don't have the words. Chat will be an empty place without Richard. RIP

Like Liv, I sometimes clashed with Richard given most of our interactions were with me as a mod, but there were many occassions where we just chatted about life and he really was caring and, although a bit abbrasive at times, a good person. I know how much he loved his son and worked so hard to be in his life. may he rest in peace.

Richard was not a fan of me at all, but decided to offer something of a truce because someone he trusted told him I wasn't actually too bad! That he trusted and respected his friend enough to stop arguing with someone who was really doing his head in made me realise that he was indeed a good guy who was a wonderful friend to many.

May he rest in peace and my thoughts are with his friends and family.

I didn't really know Richard but this is very sad and am thinking of everyone who knew him x

RIP x

No words..
rest in peace Richard

I don't have words. I'm gutted man, absolutely gutted. He was one of the nicest people, sarcastic nature or not. RIP dude, we'll never forget you. :')

... I have no words. I didn't really deal with him much either, but my thoughts are with all those who knew him.

hey richard.....

sorry i didnt have the chance to get to know or chat you but this is sad news

r.i.p mate

rip buddy.

this is ****ing heartbreaking. rich was an amazing guy, but you had to know him. through the last year or something we were in a disagreement but **** it none of that matters.

he was extremely loyal, and extremely protective of those he cared about. we were good friends for many years and this is so unexpected.

love you man. i hope you're finally at peace.

Well said.x

I don't even have any words. RIP.

I'm not sure what to say. There were periods where we would talk a lot in chat and periods where we didnt really speak. The world is a more boring place without him.


Thanks for all the long Nick Cave conversations Richard. Thanks for being caring when i needed it and thanks for annoying the hell out of me at other times.

I hope you are at peace now.

What.

****.

I was literally just watching him drink milk and fall asleep in a google hangout while chat was down the other night.

****.

Rest in Awesome, dude. You better be getting a hell of a lot of boobs wherever you are now. You'll definitely be missed in chat.

I don't really have words. We were never close, but Richard was a huge part of RYL, chat especially, and it just will not be the same without him. Hope he is no longer in pain.

Never really spoke to him apart from once in pm over his sarcasm but sad another Ryl member has died :(

R.I.p x

So sad, Richard was always one of the few guys who you could count on to be perfectly honest, even if that meant offending someone, he was always genuine and in this world that is hard to find.

Rest in peace

This is sad to hear and my thoughts are with his friends and family.

He was always so kind and patient. He was always there for me and he loved talking about his kid. He listened and would tell me when I was off my rocker.

He was also sarcastic but I like that. He was faithful and loyal. There were so many good qualities and never could see them, just the bad. I will miss him a great deal.

Oh my god!!! I just talked with him in chat last week!!! So heart broken! I have known Richard for almost as long as I've been a member!! RYL won't be the same without him

My heart aches. Did he know how well he was loved?

I hope so Crys, I really hope so.

I wish you were here so that i could tell you how much of an arse you are.

You will be missed here so terribly, i don't know what the mods are going to do with themselves without you terrorising the boards with your bluntness and sarcasm.

On a personal note, i have loved the many many hours of conversation we have had. You were always so caring, so passionate, so honest and so willing to give up your time to talk. I was reading through old facebook conversations yesterday, i feel like i should have let you know more how awesome you are.

You are so loved - i hope you knew. I think you did.

dick head.

xxx

I couldn't help but go through and reread old conversations with Richard. There are thousands of messages so I didn't reread them all, but I found some great things from him. Quoted below, things he said to me when I was having a difficult time:

"Okay, your mind is the controlling force that is in play, to you your mind is the universe. So when you are feeling overwhelmed and restrained you will naturally feel like there is a greater force at play
You and you alone much challenge these feelings and tell yourself, "no... You will not control me today"
"I am powerful, I am in control, I am strong enough to face today"
It will get exhausting, when it does that is when you need to allow yourself to break down and cry, free yourself of the burden and the tension that is weighting you down, scream loud and then get up and start telling yourself these things again
Best do the screaming out in the middle of nowhere
Some people may see that as insanity."

Oh and also from Richard:

"Damn it woman... Just take the nonsense I just said and turn it in to something profound and wise.."

Does anyone know if his dog is being looked after? I know she was super important to him and I really hope she is okay.

**** rich, I am sorry. Sorry no one knew how you were feeling to help you, sorry no one knew ho you were feeling, just sorry. I loved you as a friend as much as I'd love a friend i see everyday. You were loyal and kind and always told me the truth, which always helped me. I never could work out people, but you were always there when I needed you, you always stood up with me when i couldn't find the words to fight back. I am sorry I always put off seeing you, putting uni first. I thought you'd be here forever, but you lost your war and I am sorr. I will always remember you for who you are, a decent bloke who loved animals more than people, and most of the time were on the same wavelength. I hope you find some peace now mate, and in the next life I will see you and we can finally have that drink and smoke x

I imagine his son and family will take care of the dog.

Rich...
I just wanted to say that although I didn't know you well. We had a handful of conversations, but I cared about you. I care for everyone in that chat, because everyone in there is like a family, you included man. I'm so sorry that you felt the need to do this. There are so many people here who love you. All I can say is that I hope you are at peace now, and are partying with the best up there
RIP. x

I didn't much like him or talk to him but still I would not wish this on anyone. It is so sad and he will be missed.

You didn't have to say anything about not liking him. People who knew him loved him.

truth

How can you decide you dont like someone when youve not spoken to them?
You have no idea and you didnt need to say anything,

I think Wyatt said it best, chat is family. We fight and we are dysfunctional and other people sometimes don't understand it but within that chat room is a good support system. Richard was such a big part of that and he has left a big hole in the heart of chat.

As an aside, I really don't want this thread to go off track but I have to say that if you didn't get on with Richard or whatever then please don't post and say so. It's painful for the people who got him, who got past his armour and knew him as the wonderful human that he was. You can say RIP or whatever without saying things like that.

It's still hard to believe, I keep thinking he will pop up and say that it's a joke or someone got it wrong.

Well damn...I don't have words...