| PoisonedApple |
08-07-2010 11:31 PM |
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Okay, question for you all - do you have any idea how, in Mozilla Firefox, you can make breaks in the text? because otherwise this is just going to be a wall of text. It's so annoying!! so I'm going to do separate posts for each reply (guhh, maybe) simply because otherwise it would be impossible to read. I think. Unless maybe I separated each paragraph with a line of asterisks or summat?
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First thing's first... I just press enter in the reply box and it goes to another line... sort of like typing in a Word document...
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Anyway Crimson, ummm, I'm worried about deployment AND overseas stationing. I know next to nothing about the military except that it gives good benefits (heh) which is the main reason we're looking at it. Well, for other reasons too, obviously, like it would give Jarrod opportunities to advance in a career and actually do something he could be proud of, instead of working at his current job, which he is NOT proud of. Anyway. Um, he's thinking the airforce or something similar, National Guards a little, but I really really don't want him to do that. I don't even know if he could get in, and I don't want him to be on the "front lines" ... I know, I'm being so ****ing selfish... but it's so hard!!!! :'( Crimson, if you could give any enlightenment on it I'd really appreciate that!! (I don't even really know what I mean, just some information on what it's like in the military and all - and maybe Hayley could help with some info on what it's like having a significant other be deployed??)
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Ok . Since you are married (license and all -I'm assuming here-) when he fills out his initial paperwork you will be listed as a dependent and anywhere he is stationed (aside from deployment to a hazardous zone: Korea, Iraq, Afganistan...) you will be moved (on the military's dime) along with all of you and Jarrod's belongings up to a certain weight. So if he was stationed in Germany for his first PCS (permanent change of station) move after he arrives and gets housing (this can sometimes take a little while but not terribly long usually) you would be moved there. When the military moves you a moving crew is hired and they arrange the time with you, they pack all of your stuff (be warned if you leave a full trash can when they show up it may be packed too)-if you want certain things not packed like what you will take on the plane pre-pack it-, then you and any pets fly over and move in. Being stationed in foreign countries offers many opportunities to see many new places and things you may otherwise not have the opportunity for. No matter where he is stationed you have a higher chance of getting a job on the base than non-military dependent civilians do. Like a preference list... if you as a dependent and a non-dependent are equally qualified for a job you would get it. If he is military not national guard he'd get regular pay plus cost of living plus a food allotment and there's a program where either he'd get housing on base or the military pays for housing off base if on base housing is unavailable. The health care is decent enough and many places off base take the insurance so don't believe you're limited to just the military doctor's opinions. These days I don't usually recommend the military but I do tell anyone willing to listen that of the branches the air force is the best one for how they treat the soldier and the family, I also hear the health care is better than the other branches (I was army). As for worrying about the "front lines" typically unless he's going to be infantry or something similar he won't be as close to front lines as you'd think but truck drivers do get a majority of the problems these days with roadside bombs. He'll have to take a test to see what jobs he qualifies for then pick one from that (excluding Navy they assign you whatever job they think you should have without asking your opinion and you are assigned to a ship to be out at sea at least a yr before any land based, family living type of options open up). You may want to see if he's open to you discussing your concerns with a recruiter and when he decides on a job you being there to have them explain what it entails. No matter the branch (even part time military) he'll go to basic training, then job training before his first station.
Hmmmm... I'm sure there's more relevant knowledge up here in this head of mine somewhere but for now I think I've taken up enough space :)
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Hey Crimson, I'm glad you're sort of ok, but then again, I am always functioning, but hardly ever OK. I know what you mean. There's an almost phyiscal barrier that stops me saying things too.
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*nods* even my own vent threads are neglected... even the one I don't share. *smiles at the irony of starting a thread as a journal and not using it at all* ah well life goes on, eh? |
