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airwolf282
25-09-2008, 10:39 AM
I applied for this job at a large company in my town. Apparently they have a few positions available soon. I made the short list but that just makes me even more anxious. I rang the manager who does the hiring and he said he's going to call everyone who is getting an interview on Friday (tomorrow). I don't know why I feel anxious about this, I'm pretty damn sure that their not going to call me anyway. It's probably the best chance I've got in the 8 months I have been unemployed. My disability pension means I'm only allowed to work 15 hours max per week and I'm going to need time off next month (2 weeks for family commitments). Even if I make it to an interview, what are they going to think of when they learn of this? And what will they think of me being on a pension and restricted to 15 hours? All this is going to be used against me and the fact I'm over 21 and have to be paid full adult wages by law. I have no hope and yet this is the only chance I've had in nearly a year. :sad: I'm just sick of being unemployable. I'm 26 and relatively healthy apart from my MI and I want to work but noone will give me a chance. The thought of struggling to get by week after week for the rest of my life on a pension really makes me want to die right now. What's the point if I'm only going to be a nothing in this world?

And when I go to my family commitments next month (a birthday and a wedding) what am I going to tell everyone. When people who haven't seen me for ten or fifteen years ask how I'm going and what I'm doing with my life? What can I say, oh well I haven't worked in nearly a year, I can't get a job anywhere because I'm a loser and can't hold one because I'm a fruit cake. Oh and I've been admitted to psych hospitals half a dozen times in the last year and I've cut myself, burnt myself and Od'd on meds because I'm a nutcase. And I caused one of my best friends to take her own life. My last words to her were **** off and I cut move past that, it still eats me away today and I can't forgive myself. Then what would they think? Why can't you get up off your ass and do something with your life. Why can't you be more like your cousin so and so, why can't you do as well as the rest of your family have? So I tell them nothing. I put on a face and lie my way through the whole ****ing thing. And it upsets me because I know I have to lie to avoid having to hear that sort of response which would cause me to flip out and stab that person in the chest. :sad:

I really wish I wasn't here anymore. I wish I could die tomorrow. No more nutcase, no more fruitcake, no more unemployable loser, and as an ex gf of mine put it no more worthless mentally unstable bastard. No more lying to people and putting on a face to prevent people knowing the truth about Nathan. And no more wearing shirts with sleeves to cover scars. I think the best thing for me to do tomorrow is to go down to the hardware store and buy some rope. :sad:

GrimmFaerieTale
25-09-2008, 09:44 PM
**Hugs** If you made the short list sweety, then you definately do stand a chance. They've obviously seen something in you that they feel could contribute to their company. They aren't allowed to use your disability against you, and as long as you are up front and honest with them about it then you stand as much chance as anyone else. Your previous commitments shouldn't be a problem either sweety, potential employers can't expect you to have put your entire life on hold whilst applying for jobs on the off chance you get one. Again, as long as you tell them (and they should give you an oppurtunity to do this) they should be fine with it. If this job doesn't work out, there'll be others sweety, don't think that if you don't get this one, you won't get any jobs ever.
Sweety, it sounds like you've had a really hard year, but you aren't a 'nutcase'. I don't know what happened with your best friend, but I'm sure you were not the reason she ended it. Can you get any help for your feelings surrounding that? They sound very very hard to cope with, especially if you're not having any help with it. Sweety, you aren't your cousin, you are you.
Ending it isn't the answer. I can tell you're having a hugely difficult time at the moment, but suicide is a very permanent "solution". An easier time will come, I promise. Sorry that none of my advice is very good **hugs**

blondiebear
26-09-2008, 07:06 AM
If you go in open and honest about your time off for family, it shouldn't be a problem.

You are not worthless!

I wear long sleeves a lot too, in my case to protect myself from the sun. Just make it your normal way of dressing and don't worry about it. I have an uncle who does the same thing too.

We all have to wear a kind of mask in public. It helps protect us. It is ok.

I wish i could help. But I am here and listening.

airwolf282
27-09-2008, 12:42 AM
Sorry I didn't get back sooner, I've been feeling sick lately. I appreciate your replies even though I don't really deserve them.

I didn't get the call anyway so I guess I was right. That was as close as I would get in getting a job. I know that some have it worse, I'm just so sick of being the reject :sad: I was right, I am worthless and I don't deserve to be breathing the same air that everyone else does. I can't contribute and I'm worthless so I shouldn't be here.

Amialone, what happened in February is that my friend and I had an argument and I told her to **** off only 36 hours before she died from self inflicted poisoning. I know that it is my fault. Even though other things had been making her suicidal it was me that pushed her over the edge by saying that. It's me that should be gone and not her.

I haven't harmed myself for a while but I'm scared I'm going to do it again. I just haven't had the energy do anything yet but I still have a couple of blades hidden away and I'm afraid that when I'm feeling stronger I'm going to use them.

:blue: Nathan

GrimmFaerieTale
27-09-2008, 11:08 AM
Sweety, you are not worthless. Maybe you weren't the right person for this job, but there WILL be others, you just have to keep pushing yourself on through all the cr*p life throws until it throws you something worth it.
Oh honey, her suicide was not your fault, at all. You said yourself it was other things making her suicidal, it is not your fault. I don't think there's anything I can say that'll take those feelings of guilt away from you at the moment, but I hope in time that you can see it wasn't your fault.
Is there anyway you could throw the tools away before you use them?

**HUGS**

Casper_Fading
27-09-2008, 03:29 PM
oh darlin. i'm sory. i dnt have words of comfort right nwo. *cuddles* i'm sory thigns are tough stil but you have a strength u dnt see. i see it thgu, shingng trhow u. i'm thinking of u. thank u for being there for me evern though ur strugling. *cuddle tight*

love
jes

shadowedseraph
27-09-2008, 04:03 PM
Your not worthless at all! amialone is right there will be other jobs, better jobs for you. As for your friends suicide no one can take that guilt away, but it honestly wasnt your fault and i doubt your friend would want you to carry the guilt forever *hugs*