just a whine....feel free to ignore

[Merc]

hey, just had to whine lil...my shoulder is getting more sore and now its down to my elvow and into my back...still waithing ioon xray results :o(
I go mar 26 (not too long nmow) to the ortho sugeon. my doc wont prescribe higher pain pills without puttng me in hospital as im on th highest as can be..well they work a damn but he of course doesnt get it..

Im tired of one handed typing, not being able to do anyhting myeklf. i used to pride myself on my strength and what i could do...and now opening the milk jug hurts a bastard and i usually cant do it...cooking is fun...NOT! I have a million and ione loads of laundry and i just cant do them...i have to move a few item at a time and remove the same way, taking forever!!!! Im just fed up now and hubby says it could ne 6-8 months (GP agrees)..mostly cos i cant stand asking for hlp so ill do it mysel;f..stupid..it iwll never heal if i keep this up!!!!

Think im done.
At least this is somewhat temporary (it means i will likely lose my job tho...wonderful)..i have new appreciation for disabled ppl...who have to do it daily, for the rest of their lives

thx for listening
romp

[dark_light]

I'm sorry you are feeling so crappy
Being in pain makes things feel worse i know
please let your husband help you do chores, that might help ease it a little?
one handed typing sounds a nightmare - takes me ages with two!
love and hugs xjox

[Merc]

Thx! Never realized how much i take for granted...
romp

[blondiebear]

Are you seeing the ortho surgeon to see if you need more stuff done?

Do you have any friends who could come over and help? Yeah laundry one handed sounds awful. Especially for a family! Isn't it time that your 16 year old learned how to do some cooking and some laundry?

I so understand. In 2002 I sprained an ankle so bad that I broke it. 10 days of splints waiting for the swelling could go down. Included a few days of 4x/day dunking the food/ankle in ice water. Four weeks in a fiberglass cast. I am totally inept with crutches, one of my friends lent me a wheelchair. I live in a second floor condo, had to learn to get up/down stairs using hands, rear, good foot. My poor husband had to do most everything.

I still appreciate that just a few days after I wrecked my ankle that my husband installed a hand held shower head so I could wash my hair! That way I could just drop crutches in the bedroom and crawl to the shower.

Stop taking care of them and let them take care of you. Let go of things that don't have to be done. Let your husband change a laundry load before he goes to work. Let the kids change them when they get home. Take out food is expensive but it works in a pinch.

Remind your family that when your body is busy fighting pain, it doesn't have the resources to heal!
Don't forget to check for 125 pound mobile rugs?:eyeroll:

*gives you an understanding hug*

[Merc]

LOL!!!! my nature has turned to bite me in the ass....i NEVER ask for help, and actually will get mad if im struggling and he jumps in. see, i was taught asking for help was the lowest a person could fall...that its on par with lying,cheating,stealing. weakness WAS NOT allowed for me ever...its hard to let go off
and i feel such a useless bitch when i ask for help. but hubby has been good..i have to nudge him tho and that is EXTREMELY difficult...but we had a good talk last night and i told him that^^^ that i feel a userless bitch asking and he felt terrible and i think things will change; he simply didnt realize how bad it made me feel.
and my dfaughter has actually been wonderfull; dishwasher, cooking some meakls, and she is CONSTANTLY saying mom can i help, mon letme dfo that which most times is lovely but sometimes drive me fecking mad to be honest! horrible but hey....30 years of how i grew up isnt going anywhere soon. and nmy hubby getys up at 5;390 am and gets home 6-7 pm...so hes damned tired and i like taking care of him...but i cant
but youre absolutely right susan...i just CANT do it. i posted in FA about it getting soerer and swollen and the pain moving furter and higher on the arm so i thibnk its a direct effect of not taking care of me enough...so tonite ui will. im gonna sit them down and tell them fot the next while...i can do next to nothing; i'll teach my daughtwer [again lol] the washer etc.
and take out has been a godsend!!! better still i've been able tyo go out to eat most times, which is HUGE fior me...i have to take an extra pill..but at least im doing it..AND enjoying it :o)

my god im long winded today lol lol
thx susan [ and others] luv ya
romp

[blondiebear]

I didn't even ask for help when I broke my ankle. It was obvious that I wouldn't be able to do anything.

Like you I grew up thinking that asking for help is bad, that asking for anything is wrong. It was my job to take care of everyone else.

Be good to yourself. Let your family be good to you. If pink socks that didn't start out pink are part of the price, your husband can just laugh out loud too!
*blows you a kiss*

[Casper_Fading]

Hello dear! Pain sucks. Asking for help is not weakness it's intelligence! I know it sucks BUT if you don't ask for help the damage could go from 6-8 months... to years. Trust me. There are things I can't do because i've damaged my shoulder joints and this meant I had to say no to my grandmother when she asked me to carry her wet washing to the washing line... I felt horrible but it's been explained that i'm NOT being lazy and i'm not allowed to lift heavy things (I can manage a horse saddle though! how cool am i... *cough*) Anywho I digress. If anyone deserves to be waited on hand and foot it's you! I suggest a bell (or horn) to ring when you need something... like someone to change the channel on the tele :P Take out rocks! And there are things you can cook one handed! Microwave popcorn.... microwave mac and acheese.... but mostly popcorn :D Anywho, whinge away love! You're entitled to it and we'll always be here to listen and to make you laugh (or do a poor attempt at trying to make you laugh becasue i'm aware i'm extremely unfunny) I'm not actually sure if that's a word? Unfunny? who knows...

*wanders out of thread scratching head*

oh oh... my cat tried so hard to get the bottom of my milk out of my glass today that it tipped it all over a report i hand wrote for a group i'm on... and THEN she tried to lick it up...