Sorry to make another thread . Sexual Frustration.

[Doikers]

I am so Sexually Frustrated.
My SO and I are on different Continents.
I've never been able to have sex , my penis failed in the only sexual encounter I've ever had.
Masturbation simply gives me no relief at all.
I want to injure my genitals but promised my SO I wouldn't.
I don't know why my penis failed.
She is coming over early next year and it's a hell of a lot of pressure.
I don't know what to do.

[bitomato]

Hey. Have you talked to your GP about it? I know that some medicine impacts libido. You talk about a psychological element too so maybe something like depression is preventing enjoyment. While penetrative sex may seem like both a goal and expectation maybe you can explore ways to celebrate intimacy that doesn't only involve sex. Communication is a big deal so maybe also let your SO know where your head is at.

[Aliccia]

Without being graphic - there is a lot more to sex than just involving the penis.
Maybe if you concentrate on that in the first instance it will take the pressure off?

[sherlock holmes]

Sex is generally a complicated thing because not only does it involve the genitals but it involves the mind. Anyone who is maybe a bit stressed, or tired, or depressed or whatever will have trouble staying aroused and having an orgasm. The mind is just as involved as the genitals and lots of people forget that. And then there's medication which can make it harder to stay aroused and orgasm.

When you say your penis failed what do you mean exactly? I'd advise you to see a GP, problems like this are extremely common and your GP can suggest ways to help.

Please don't self harm on your genitals. Don't view them as the problem, you need to learn to nurture the sexual side of yourself and not to be fearful or worried about it. Perhaps you can ask your GP to see a sex therapist?

As others have said, sex doesn't just involve the penis/penetrative sex. Have a google for other ways of being intimate. And talk to your partner about the pressure you feel. How long will they be visiting for? Perhaps a good first step would just be to cuddle in bed and not go any further, just so you can get comfortable with each other. And the next night maybe cuddle naked and have a kiss. And the night after introduce some gentle touching. Communication is key- to tell each other what you like, what you don't, and how you feel about it. Don't feel pressured to go all the way if you have reservations for any reason.