EUPD traits vs rational concern

[~SuNsHiNe~]

How do you know when what you are feeling is symptomatic of having been dx with EUPD traits and when its a concern that most would have? I know I have a tendency to be insecure and overreact and sometimes its difficult to differentiate between the two

[sherlock holmes]

I usually ask people close to me so I can be sure.

Do you have any specific examples?

[Albus Dumbledore]

I don't know if this is when you're asking for but when I have interpersonal issues, such as feeling angry, or annoyed at someone, or feeling particularly stressed about something, I tend to try not to react immediately to it, and have a bit of a rant to someone who I can trust not to tell anyone. I then wait a couple of days, and if I'm still having that emotion, or thought, I will act on it then. I find that venting to someone I trust helps me get things out, and also provides me with feedback on whether what I'm feeling is rational or not, and with ideas of how to proceed if things are still bothering me after a couple of days. It also gives me some "cooling off" time to wait for my emotions to subside a bit.

[~SuNsHiNe~]

I'm just feeling really anxious about things and I don't know if I am overreacting, but I do have a lot of things going on atm (my gran doesn't have long to live, work and relationship stress) and I feel all panicky..I can be okay but that feeling of fear doesn't go away

[sherlock holmes]

Try to remember that nobody in life lives with no emotional reaction. Having stressors such as your gran being unwell and work and relationship stress are reasons why you'd be feeling emotionally fragile, and so would anybody without a BPD diagnosis too.

Don't fight what you're feeling as it often intensifies the emotion. Treat yourself with care, remind yourself your feelings are valid but you don't have to do anything negative in order to cope.

The feeling of fear can't hurt you. It's not nice to have it, but if you try and leave it be it will go by itself.

[property]

My emotional distress as EUPD are vastly different to rational emotional distress, and it took awhile to recognise the differences for myself.

I tend to, like Sarah, ask friends if I'm being irrational but I also try to pay attention to how in control of my emotions I feel, so for instance in an EUPD breakdown I have little control over my emotions and they feel bigger than myself.