Advice, will I be considered as a bad parent?

[Hannahw4]

Iv relapsed and feel terrible about it. Iv got a 10 month old daughter so I feel so selfish! Two years ago I really sorted my self out, I quit smoking, drinking and SH. Now I feel like a failure.
I'm scared to tell my health visitor or Dr that Iv been harming myself incase they think I'm unable to look after my daughter properly.iv got a really supportive family around me, work isn't stressful and caring for my daughter doesn't give me any stress but I still feel so rubbish, I should be happy and grateful for everything Iv got.
Anyway, i just don't know what to do, my daughter is the only thing that makes me happy and gets me through the day. I'm just scared the Dr will think I'm a danger to her

[Margo]

with the support of family speaking to the gp will be fine I am sure.

[effervescence]

Please, please tell your doctor or health visitor. They won't think you're a danger IF you tell them, be honest, and ask for help. By keeping quiet you risk causing problems if you are later found out or if you get worse.
They won't want to take your baby away or anything like that - they will work with you to fix this, whether it be therapy, medication or just someone to talk to or some extra help around the house, whatever you figure out together.
They will have seen this before, remember, you're not the only one.

[Hannahw4]

Thanks for your advice, I'll mention it at my next app. That's the only thing I'm worried about is my daughter being took away, iv been on a few different medications, none have seemed to work yet, therapy is no help because I really struggle to talk to them, and i have plenty of supportive family close by so I don't need any extra help around the house. Not sure if there's any other ways to help me! I should be happy, but then the guilt from feeling unhappy for no reason makes me worse, I should be grateful for everything

[Margo]

Lots of parents get I'll with all kinds of illness. The most important thing is a good family. The authorities will do their best to keep families together regardless of what many may fear. I think openness and honesty are good signs and it shows you're a loving and caring and considerate parent.

Good luck x

[effervescence]

Things have to be very serious for a baby to be uplifted. From what you've said, having supportive family, trying to engage in therapy etc are very positive and will reflect well on you. Being honest really is the best policy, if social services or mental health services feel you are not being truthful they will be more concerned.

[Hannahw4]

Iv told my health visitor everything. Iv got an appointment with a psychiatric nurse in a few weeks but in the meantime the health visitor is here if I need her, she's reassured me there are no concerns about my parenting so I feel much better. Thank yous again!x

[Margo]

Ace !

Well done

[Hannahw4]

Thanks:D

[88shelz]

glad you spoke to your health visitor . they are there to support families and offer help were needed :)