The pressure of others

[AllButWanted]

I'm currently an inpatient on a PD unit and i feel like i am constantly supporting those around me and it is dragging me down.
I don't mind being someone they can talk to but it feels right now that some of the other patients are burdening me with there issues and when i am in need of support or upset they don't seem to care.
I am being told some things by them which are very triggering for me and being disclosed information to that i am in no way able to deal with. I also feel like some of the things that i am being told are making me feel responsible for keeping them safe and that's not something right now that i am able to do because i am struggling to keep myself safe.
I just feel like i am being took advantage of and i don't know what to do. I want to tell the staff here how i feel but i don't know how to.
Has anyone got any advice for me?
Thanks
Em xx

[talaiporia]

I wonder if it's worth talking to staff? I imagine it must be very draining supporting others so much. I think if there are some very draining patients then staff need to step in and say they need to come to them, not other patients with this.

[AllButWanted]

I want to speak to the staff i just don't know how to and don't want to seem like i am just talking about them behind there back if that makes sense?

[Sneckie]

I had the same problem when I was an in patient on a general psych ward. Everyone told me everything and it felt overwhelming at times. I did have to tell the nurses a couple of things though as I was concerned for the persons safety. I felt bad that I was talking about them "behind their back" but I figured as I was trying to help it was the right thing to do.

[sherlock holmes]

If you're on a PD unit then they should have strict rules/ boundaries in place to prevent this kind of thing from happening. I was sent to a self harm and PD unit where in the therapy groups we were allowed to talk about anything and discuss how we felt, but outside of groups we were not allowed to mention anything triggering or anything we spoke about in the group. Otherwise people would just offload their problems to each other constantly.

Definitely talk to the staff about it as its affecting your recovery

[Arienette]

I agree that some boundaries need to be set here and that if you don't feel able to do it yourself then the nurses should help you to do that. Would it help if you just distanced yourself and made yourself unavailable. Just don't pay attention, their safety isn't your responsibility. X

[AllButWanted]

Thank you for all your replies.
I managed to have a chat with my named nurse today and she has said that she will speak to everyone as a group in morning meeting about not putting pressure on other patients because i told her i was worried about her talking to the ones who do it individually.
They don't seem to enforse many rules here and i'm not even fully sure of a lot of them. They do however like to annoy me with stupid rules such as telling me not to walk around in just my socks and to put some slippers on!! haha.
I am trying to distance myself a bit from the patients by spending less time in comunal areas but sometimes that can be hard as it makes me feel quite lonely so i guess i just have to ind the right balance between time on my own and time with people.
The normal therapy timetable starts up again tomorrow with us having a break from it because of christmas so hopefully things should start to improve.
Hope your all okay
Em
xx