unstable relationship advice.

[Ballerina123]

I go to a mental health group. A lot of people there have unstable relationships and i want to be supportive but I've never had a unstable relationship so I don't understand it.
Is there anything I can do or say to be supportive?
Does anyone here have that problem and what would be helpful support from a peer?

When people have these issues I feel hopeless because I want to help them but just don't know how.

[Serendipity.]

I don't really know what it is that you don't understand. And it also depends on what you mean by 'unstable'? I know you said you don't have unstable relationships but you ave made several threads on here about problematic relationships (I'm thinking more of friendships than romantic relationships) so perhaps considering what you find difficult about those relationships could help you understand.

Also, I would say that if you want to help the best thing to do is listen to THEIR experience because it won't necessarily be the same as someone on here. Why not ask them what they would find helpful? Also be careful of feeling like you have to be the fixer. Chances are the thing that will help the most is being able to talk things through and find their own solutions.

It's nice that you want to help though.

[tiptoes]

I try to concentrate on my friends feelings and avoid making comments about the relationship or their partner. Otherwise it is easy to fall into the trap of talking about their partners/relationship faults/issues etc and then the following week or month when things are going better you look like the bad guy because of what you have said previous when they were also thinking along the same lines. It isn't always important to have answers for them sometimes an imparial ear that just lets them talk and order their own thoughts.