Inappropriate behaviour by a member of staff

[Ballerina123]

I live in a hostel for people with mental health problems.

On Friday night I had a crisis and had to go to a&e. I told a male member of staff what was happening. I was crying and he rubbed his hands up my legs. He then ask for my mobile number so he could check on me later (which isnt that odd because the hostel check on me a lot over the phone). He then hugged me before I left for a&e.

Whilst at a&e I got a call from a mobile number I didn't recognise. It was the same worker calling off his personal mobile. He asked how I was and then said I can call him on the number at anytime.

The next day back at the hostle this member of staff asked why I hadn't updated him about what happened at a&e. I did call him on his personal number because I didn't think it was right.


Should I do anything about this worker or should I just leave it and never use his mobile number?
If I make a complaint I will still have to live with this member of staff which makes it very awkward. Yet I feel uncomfortBle around him.....

Any advice would be great.
Thanks

[Pomegranate]

To be honest if it's a one off thing then I'd just leave it. It doesn't sound like he handled the situation in the way that was most helpful for you and I'm sorry if it's distressed you. If he does anything else that makes you uncomfortable then maybe mention something then. Just my opinion though.

[fragile as glass]

This is a difficult one. I have been assaulted myself on more than one occasion in more than one hospital by staff. I found that I wasn't believed due to having mental health problems and the stress and indignity of not being taken seriously and more or less called a liar left me feeling worse than if I had kept quiet.

So I think if you think this man may be a danger to other girls/women you kinda need to speak up but if you think he was being a one off jerk then leaving it may be better. Only you can reach decisions like these.

Maybe you could talk to someone at your hostel - not report it- but talk through it and what's best to do. I hope you resolve this soon x

[Becca]

Is there anyone at the hostel you feel able to talk to, or maybe phone and mental health helpline and discuss it with them? I agree that would be the first step. It is difficult because it is a member of staff where you living.