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HardLife67
01-02-2014, 09:36 PM
Hi guys, I really need some advice on this situation. I could really use some help :-).

I'm literately on the verge to exploding (mentally). Too long have I been put up with this ****!!!! I'm going no where in life.

1. I'm studying a Law/Commerce degree. Received **** grades (GPA - 4.6) and is way behind the pack of 1st year students.

2. I'm working full-time. Well, I was. Earning $12/hr Monday-Friday. Now they reduced my hours drastically. Most of the colleagues don't like me because I'm quiet and not very sociable.

I'm struggling to earn $200/ wk and mum takes $180 off that for board. I'm going no where in terms of savings. Getting a 'dead end' job in a small business and constantly criticised when it's not necessary.

3. I've got a learning disability, so my intellectual/social levels are awful.

4. I use to be so focused on my studies that I had no time for a social life. Now I've got no friends and all the sacrifices I made up until this point has been a waste of time. When I get a slight benefit/advantage, I always **** up.

5. Because I have no friends I can't socialise. Particularly when I moved to a different suburb and have to rely on technology to keep in touch. My best-friend at the time only gave me 45 seconds on the phone before he had to hang up because of his girlfriend.

6. I can't talk to anyone. Guys have become acquaintices and girls either stop texting me (because of their BF) or just playing mind games on me. Not once did a friend ask how I was or how was uni etc.

7. I spend every weekend in the house, all by myself. I had a terrible life. Raised by alcoholic parents and constantly abused when I was at school because of my disability. I've been bullied, a lot in the past 8-9 years and I seem to swallow the pain and play 'the nice guy'. I just don't react and asorb the moment.

I'm going no where in life. A lot of people could do better then I can. I once had a minor reaction and lost $850 at the local TAB. I've busted my arse 24/7 to try and give myself the best possible situation in life and I ended up putting myself in the worst position of life.

Never had a girlfriend, financially broke, no one to talk to, just a ****ed up life at the moment. Yet I never seem to react and just keep things bottled up. I have never gone mental in my life. Now I'm worried that it's going to happen :-(. I feel like that I should let go of everything apart from work & uni. Meaning that I have to give my acquaintices the flick.

I spend 40 hours a week studying and 45 hours a week working. The rest of the time is filled up with household chores!! I just don't have time to 'become a teenager so to speak'. I took a gamble and it didn't pay off. NOT ONE SINGLE BIT!!!! Now I'm left with nothing and no one, except my alcoholic parents that I have to deal with. I'm 19 and I'm also addicted to porn and masturbation :'(.

KitOKeefe
02-02-2014, 09:15 AM
Fellow future lawyer here. However, I'm studying in the US, where the ABA prescribes how much we are allowed to work a week (not full time, and they really don't like you working at all your first year because those grades are ironically most important.) You use mum instead of mom, so I think you might be somewhere else? Also since you are allowed to work so much and study law at 19 years old?

I don't know what kind of school you go to, but law students in general love alcohol. I can't imagine a school not having any kind of mixers/bar reviews/happy hours. Go to the general one or to one of the many organizations' events.

Also, maybe it is for the best that your hours were cut right now. Talk to your mother; tell her that what you might cost in the short term will pay out over the long term with hopefully a lucrative degree, if you can get your grades up. Promise her a nice reward in x years for supporting you through this madness. What's your grading scale anyway?

Good luck, and may the odds be ever in your favor during exam time.