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Yams
02-09-2013, 11:44 AM
...but I really don't want to.

This Friday will be my 5th therapy appointment. At the time I signed up, I was ready to tell my therapist everything in the hopes that, one day, she'd be able to help me fix myself. And 4 or 5 weeks ago that was still fine, I had no problem with it.

Things have changed.

In the past week or 2, my self harm has gotten "worse". I don't personally see it like that, hence the quotation marks, but I understand that most would. Every time I do it I need to do it deeper than the time before, and so far I've been rising to that challenge spectacularly. I do believe that this new desire to mess my arm up worse and my active planning to take my life have something to do with each other.

But how do I tell my therapist that? She wants to deal with the trauma she thinks I've been struggling with; how can I slide in a comment about how I've been cutting more and checking the OD amounts of every pill in the house? And why would I want to? I'm feel like I'm walking on thin ice; if she thinks I'm a threat to myself she could try to have me put in a hospital. I know the chances are still pretty slim, such are the perks of living in the UK, but it's still one of my biggest fears.

So, basically, I need you guys' help. I want to tell my therapist, but only because I'm supposed to. I don't want to tell my therapist, but only because I'm scared to. What should I do?

crazykat
02-09-2013, 12:19 PM
I think you should tell your therapist, that way they can provide some support to you to help you through this. Would it be easier to write it down at all? Sometimes people find it easier to give their therapist something they have written rather than having to say the words out loud. As for whether they would put you in hospital, it is important to remember that this is usually a last resort that is used. They will try and work with you to work out other possible strategies instead if possible before they even explore the whole hospital option.

Yams
02-09-2013, 12:33 PM
I'll probably write it down then, and e-mail her to say I have a note to give her. Thanks.

And I know that hospital is a last resort; I'm just scared that the more I tell her and the less stable I become the closer I get to that being the only option left. I can't keep this all under control any more and I'm scared that if I decline any further she's going to start thinking about it.

Ugh, I hate this. I hate having to worry about this crap.