I'm worried about my grandpa

[forever_lost]

I just need to get this out. I just need this to go away. I'm probably overreacting, but I'm scared. I'm really close to my grandparents, and they're getting old. My grandma just turned 94 and my grandpa will be 94 in October. My grandpa's always been a little more weary than my grandma, and lately, he's been very weary. They both sleep a lot, but he's been even more so, and more difficult to wake. They live in a nursing home and next week there's going to be a meeting about moving him to a palliative care place which i guess is something between a nursing home and hospice. I haven't learned much about it exactly yet. My grandma wouldn't be able to come. And I'm scared because it feels like the beginning of the end. And I can't brush it off because it's possible at their age. Not only that, but I can't imagine my grandparents being permanently separated like that. It just...can't happen. She wouldn't see him very much and she'd worry a lot, and I know he'd worry about her and wonder where she is as much as his consciousness allows. He has dementia and can get very confused sometimes. The heartbreak would just make him worse I feel. It would make both of them worse. I think I'm worried to because my boyfriend's grandpa just passed away from old age and I don't want to see it happen to mine. I know they'll both pass away some day, but it doesn't make it any easier.

I'm just so scared.

[talaiporia]

It's hard when close ones get old and we worry about them dying.

A lot of my dad's friends have died recently (two funerals this week alone) and it's made me realise how old he is, and worry about that. But there is nothing you can do other than enjoy the time you do have; time doesn't slow down or stop, so you must embrace every moment.

I'm a little concerned about them splitting up after they've been together for what, 75 years (assuming they married young). I hope that the staff are able to find a good solution for them and keep them together for as long as possible.

I think it would be good for you to talk to your family about this; they're probably think about it too, and they might be able to help you deal with it.

[Porcelain Child]

That sounds really tough for you, I can imagine what you are going through cos my grandad is getting old and he is having operations on his heart.. I am just cherishing the time i have with him..That all you can do really.. I hope your being strong, you will get through this..

[PassedExpectations]

is it possible for you or another family member to go to the meeting where they discuss what route to take next?

[forever_lost]

Thanks everyone <3
My dad and my aunt will go to the meeting, and maybe a couple of my uncles. I'm not sure if my grandparents will go or not. I don't think I want to go. It feels like too much and I don't think I'd add anything. I'm going to go visit them tomorrow. I'm a little scared to see what shape he's in, but I know I have to go. I visit them about 2-4 times a month, but I want to make it more of a priority. I guess it's just hard feeling so helpless. I'll find out what's happening on Thursday.