work - again

[MrsCoulter]

Okay so since moving to Milton Keynes with my parents and nan, I now have to work at my dad's office full time. I was okay with it at first then a day or so after I started I started to get depressive feelings that I would only ever spend the rest of my life working and that any spare hour I have is counting down the time I have until I go to work. And at work I would be okay - there have been times I've wanted to just cry and quit but generally it's been okay. So then I get home and things are okay for a bit then I feel realllllly depressed about work - like when I was at school and I dreaded going the next day or whatever. I just don't know whats wrong with me!! But I don't want to be spending every minute at home, miserable, depressed and dreading going to work the next day. Everything has just gone wrong since we moved and I've fallen into this depression again. I just don't want to keep going through this :(

[88shelz]

can you speak to your family about how the move has made you feel?

[MrsCoulter]

I want to - it's kind of like when you first have to tell your parents you cut - You sit there (I don't mean you personally, just using 2nd person) and you open your mouth to say something and the moment just never seems right.

[Heidi Tiger]

I think you'll probably get used to it with time. The fact of the matter is that the majority of people will be working for the rest of their adult life. What in particular is so awful about that?

I'm wondering if maybe you aren't in a job that suits you, maybe think of some alternative career options. Also you could maybe look at it in a different way, if you don't like where you are living and what work you are doing, then the money you are earning could be your way out. You could save up to move elsewhere, or to put yourself through some more education, or even just go on a holiday for a bit of a break. Yes work can be exhausting when you've got home on an evening and you dread having to get up the next morning, but working keeps a roof over your head, it pays the bills it allows you to treat yourself.

You are bound to be unsettled by the move, that's completely natural, but stick with it and it will get easier. Do you think joining some kind of group or activity could help you meet some more people and give you something to do when you aren't working? I go to a community garden round here and it's definately helped me feel more at home, I was pretty isolated before, it also keeps me busy which is really key in fighting my depression and anxiety.

[The One Who]

I think a lot of people get feelings like that, that they most likely will be working for the rest of their lives with a couple of weeks holiday to look forward to. However, I'm sure if you find a job that suits you these feelings might lessen. Or you could look into going travelling or volunteering or something else for a while? That might just be putting off the inevitable, but it should be fun.

[MrsCoulter]

Thanks for all the messages :)