this is too much to cope with

[belladonnakitten]

I am living with my fiance and we both have problems. I have depression, anxiety, ocd, chronic migraines and an eating disorder, and my fiance has ocd, anxiety, and bad stomach problems. Right now he's in a really bad place, in pain all the time, and so anxious he barely leaves the house. He won't eat because it gives him alot of pain, and the doctors won't listen telling him it's just his anxiety.

I have to make sure he eats everyday, He constanly asks me questions of reasurance, and he is so scared of germs, he dettols everything, and wants me to do it too, and always goes on about suicide. There is so much negativity in the house it's making us both very depressed.

I feel so worn out, i have been trying hard to stay strong for him, but now i feel broken. I feel so selfish feeling this way, but i need help too. I don't know what to do, most of the time i feel like his carer, and i feel i am unable to do that job now, because i am so depressed.

i just need help...help me :(

[whirlpools]

Are either of you under the care of a mental health professional?

[belladonnakitten]

yes we are. my fiance is very noncompliant though. I think it's mainly due to fear though, he's so scared of being sick he will not take medication because of the common side effect of meds being sickness.

So other than literaly forcing him to take meds i dunno what to do. I take my meds, and i will say i feel i am the strongest one because i have help from meds, but still it doesn't take much to break me and i am trying to be really strong, but i need help with this.

I was thinking of even having him sectioned, but i don't know if i could do that, plus i would feel really bad.

[whirlpools]

If having him sectioned gets him the help (and you the help) that he needs then it might be worth it. He might be angry at first, but if it stops his illness getting worse/you are offered other avenues of care and treatment as a result, it's good. xxx