Why is everyone so bleeding homophobic?

[craving tears]

So yeah, I basically told a friend that I was gay and he seemed OK with it, so I was like... cool. (This was on Facebook - haha :P) and then another guy saw it and now he's all like.. "are you gay? hahahahaha!" It's really pissing me off.

Anyway, there's a teacher who I spoke to and they have been very helpful and she is understanding and she said she's always there for me if I need someone to speak to at any time.

Why are people so homophobic? I ****ing hate it and want everything to be OK. :-(

My last cut was August 2007, but I so badly want to do it again.

[-Stewie-]

well firstly well done for telling a friend; that must have taken a LOT- i didn't have the courage to tell anyone and ended up being outed. a lot of people could tell you similar stuff. so thats really good that you could tell him.

everything will be okay given time. trust me. it's hard having to deal with people like that guy laughing at you, but the more people you come out to who are okay with it, the more insignificant people like him will be.

telling more people is a lot easier said than done i understand that, but try and see telling your friend as the first step. the first step is always the hardest and the more you take the easier it becomes.

i understand you feeling pissed off. i get angry. really angry. i question why gay people have to come out in the first place when straight people don't because it's automatically assumed you're going to be straight. being annoyed is completely normal.

just don't let it get to you. you will find a lot more people that are ok than people who are not; and at the end of the day you are still you, nothing changes when you tell people you are gay. and anyone who is worth your headspace will realise that.

if you need to talk at any time my PM box is always open

take care of yourself

[Gone.]

It has been good that you have opened up to it with your friend, just a shame that other people have behaved so immaturely. I agree with the above poster- and they have actually written better advice than I have to give but on one thing I agree, time heals a lot of things. I guess things will just take time to sink in. People need time to adjust, so allow them that. If it doesn't get any better then either come up with some witty remarks or talk to someone about getting it sorted.

Your teacher sounds lovely and I am glad that you feel you can talk to her. Keep talking to her if you feel comfortable with it.

Take care xx

[NeverBetter]

my friend had the same promblem he finally came out as gay he first told me but i was like why u embarressed i said ur still my friend just cuz ur gay doesnt mean i wont be ur mate i was tottaly cool with it
but when ever sum1 took the piss i just stood up for him say yh so ****ing what and take the piss out of who ever took this piiss and he just said yh so what im gay no big deal and in time people become more mature and really good mates
but u will always get childish bastereds who are like eeww he/she gay but so what iif u r happy with ur sexuailty u shouldnt care just take the mick outta that guyor girl and laught at them for beeing straight

[IxKILLEDxTHExLIGHTS]

At the end of the day, the people that feel the need to make a big deal and make fun of your sexuality are almost certainly covering up the fact they are questioning theres. A few of the "cool guys" at school found out i was bi and started making a big thing of it. a week later they were measuring each others dicks and having french kissing competitions. Just be proud that you are brave enough to be true to your self. Pity them for living this uncertainty. and im here to talk to anyone because im feeling the sam anger at the moment. x

[craving tears]

well firstly well done for telling a friend; that must have taken a LOT- i didn't have the courage to tell anyone and ended up being outed. a lot of people could tell you similar stuff. so thats really good that you could tell him.

everything will be okay given time. trust me. it's hard having to deal with people like that guy laughing at you, but the more people you come out to who are okay with it, the more insignificant people like him will be.

telling more people is a lot easier said than done i understand that, but try and see telling your friend as the first step. the first step is always the hardest and the more you take the easier it becomes.

i understand you feeling pissed off. i get angry. really angry. i question why gay people have to come out in the first place when straight people don't because it's automatically assumed you're going to be straight. being annoyed is completely normal.

just don't let it get to you. you will find a lot more people that are ok than people who are not; and at the end of the day you are still you, nothing changes when you tell people you are gay. and anyone who is worth your headspace will realise that.

if you need to talk at any time my PM box is always open

take care of yourself

Kiryuu Zero, thanks for the kind words. I can see where your coming on the second paragraph and that is really true. And thanks again :)

It has been good that you have opened up to it with your friend, just a shame that other people have behaved so immaturely. I agree with the above poster- and they have actually written better advice than I have to give but on one thing I agree, time heals a lot of things. I guess things will just take time to sink in. People need time to adjust, so allow them that. If it doesn't get any better then either come up with some witty remarks or talk to someone about getting it sorted.

Your teacher sounds lovely and I am glad that you feel you can talk to her. Keep talking to her if you feel comfortable with it.

Take care xx

my latest remark is.. "what's it to you if I am? as if i'm going to fancy you, you little turd." and then they go away.

my teacher is amazing. she is so understanding it's unbelievable :)

my friend had the same promblem he finally came out as gay he first told me but i was like why u embarressed i said ur still my friend just cuz ur gay doesnt mean i wont be ur mate i was tottaly cool with it
but when ever sum1 took the piss i just stood up for him say yh so ****ing what and take the piss out of who ever took this piiss and he just said yh so what im gay no big deal and in time people become more mature and really good mates
but u will always get childish bastereds who are like eeww he/she gay but so what iif u r happy with ur sexuailty u shouldnt care just take the mick outta that guyor girl and laught at them for beeing straight

it's just not the same though :\

At the end of the day, the people that feel the need to make a big deal and make fun of your sexuality are almost certainly covering up the fact they are questioning theres. A few of the "cool guys" at school found out i was bi and started making a big thing of it. a week later they were measuring each others dicks and having french kissing competitions. Just be proud that you are brave enough to be true to your self. Pity them for living this uncertainty. and im here to talk to anyone because im feeling the sam anger at the moment. x

omg, this made me LOL! i am proud of who I am. and I might PM you if that's OK :)