how do people help?

[daycon]

hey,

i wont bore you with why becuase i know alot of you have your own problems with, but...whenever i want to cut i get this heavy feeling in my chest, and usually im shaky before i do it, and sometimes i get so worked up i want to do more...all the way. but its the way my emotions build up so fast and i jump to conclusions that drove the only thing in this world i love away...and i want to change it so badly. do you know any breathing exercises, anything to calm down...., i really want to kill myself but im too much of a coward too. i just want this to be over one way or another. but at the same time im really scared, i must so pathetic. please if you know of anything that can help please tell me.

[PassedExpectations]

deep breathing(in for 8 counts, out for 8 counts, focusing on how it feels) sometimes helps, as does guided imagery or guided muscle relaxation which you can youtube and get to try out, sometimes listening to music...

[toblerone]

Im totally with PastExpiration. Deep breathings helps a huge amount. Have you split up with the girl, or is it just not working. Don't kill yourself. Not killing yourself is not in the least bit pathetic! It's strong. PM me if you want to talk x

[daycon]

she broke up with me saying she needed a break and we were still acting as a couple....telling each other we loved each other...and then she got a bf which killed me..but we stayed in contact still told each other we loved each other...still wer physical together..even though it was unfair on this other guy...then...she got these friedns and started being ashamed of me..now she doesnt want to talk at all...she doesnt want her friends knwoing we talk...i dont blame her i really dont shes amazing and has always been there for me but the pain is just...unreal..

[suspendeddisconnect]

*hugs* i'm sorry that happened. it sounds like a very bad situation. but i'm glad you don't think you'd go through with killing yourself. that's not a coward. that's very strong.

as for dealing with cutting urges, there's holding ice and snapping a rubber band. those help cut the edge off the urge. also, distract yourself with anything you like to do. call a friend and talk about something, even if it's not si related. it's late or i'd link you some stuff we have on this forum. look around ryl. there's lots of info on tips to avoid self harm. hang in there. i'm always here if you need to talk. feel free to pm me.

[littlewhisper]

he's a liar..i am this girl