Triggering (Abuse) - Verbal abuse/desire to control: is it him or me?
My boyfriend and I are both part of an online community together, and over the past couple years i've been dating him, some people on that community have told me that he is verbally abusive, and controling. They don't know him in person, they only know what I tell them, and what he posts. The other day he posted something about his beliefs on marrage, and someone told me he's worried that it sounded like my boyfriend wants me all to himself to control. Everyone who knows him in person though think's he's amazing. My family adores him.
Lately, things have been kinda messed up, and I've been blowing up at him alot. He's started telling me that I'm the one who is abusive to him.
I don't know what to think anymore. am I abusive? is he abusive? How can I tell???