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Old 07-06-2009, 12:47 AM   #1
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Facebook Genuinely Makes Me Feel Lonely.

It's insane I know....
but facebook actually makes me feel SO lonely... like when photos go up of people having loads of fun and I'm not there.
Or when people comment on how thin and pretty someone is.
Or when people seem to have 'in jokes' and they just come up on my goddamn news feed.
I know, it's a petty thing... but seriously it's the most lonely feeling....
I can't stand being lonely.




As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2009, 12:49 AM   #2
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same here...

I thought it was just me and I was being overly sensitive!
I don't have any advise or anything, but just wanted to say that I find this too...

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Old 07-06-2009, 12:53 AM   #3
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i can relate.

do you have many friends that you can have fun with?

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Old 07-06-2009, 12:55 AM   #4
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like -I guess I'm quite... selfish? over sensitive???
If I'm in the photos or if I'm in the jokes everythings great...
but ANYTHING that doesn't involve me my emotions get blown SO OUT OF PROPORTION.....

it's the pretty thing that bothers me the most. seriously. and i know i'm totally over sensitive...




As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2009, 12:58 AM   #5
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Oh wait i forgot the other way it makes me lonely....
facebook is addictive yeh? well guess what, both my parents got addicted as they could find their old friends (they both have depression and seem to dwell in the past too much?)
they ignore me
I swear they facebook more than spend quality time with me
and my mother has some sort of application - god knows what - shes the most depressed and literally it's like i don't exist.

i know it's really weird
i find it weird. thats why none of my friends know how facebook affects me (home life wise!) but yeh it's lonely in that way too..




As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2009, 12:59 AM   #6
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I get the same...


I think with me it's due to the fact that I am so scared of being left out, or people not really liking me that when it seems to be happening (even for valid reasons) I get upset and jealous...


I don't think it's being over sensitive as such, nor over reacting... maybe more displaced annoyance? or something...

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Old 07-06-2009, 01:11 AM   #7
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i think i'd be pretty hurt if my parents were spending more time on Facebook than with me. i don't think you're over-sensitive or selfish, i think you might be insecure about being liked and being important to your friends, and like shadow-light said

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I think with me it's due to the fact that I am so scared of being left out, or people not really liking me that when it seems to be happening (even for valid reasons) I get upset and jealous...
maybe it might be helpful to remember that your friends probably feel the same when they're not part of something. it's hard to remember that nobody's having fun all the time. everyone's a little bit insecure. i think as humans we're always questioning where our place is, where we belong, to whose "pack".

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Old 07-06-2009, 01:14 AM   #8
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true, yet it always feels like they have the private jokes together; they have the fun times.
then i feel guilty for not appreciating my fun times...
but thats the thing... it seems like (and yeh maybe I am tainted by some sort of insecurity bias?) when the events involve me, its the times when I plan it....
...
I dunno
I just can't believe how something like facebook is affecting me this much!




As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2009, 01:17 AM   #9
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*hugs*
I am the same.
I hate the "highlights" bit at the side of the homepage.
I found that all my friends were doing things without me and that they seemed to be better off without me etc....suckss, but I totally understand!!

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Old 07-06-2009, 01:32 AM   #10
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I've pretty much given up visiting Facebook as I was getting fed up with seeing photos of people having fun and all this and that when I wasn't having fun.

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Old 07-06-2009, 01:38 AM   #11
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This is why I dislike facebook intensely.

 
Old 07-06-2009, 02:28 AM   #12
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Stupid Facebook :/

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Old 07-06-2009, 02:49 AM   #13
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I get the same way. When I look at the photos of my 'friends', I get so damn lonely and depressed. Wishing I was with them...



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Old 07-06-2009, 10:44 AM   #14
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yep.....
Like it could be anything. or even if they have a happy status - very selfish - but it makes me feel so GRRRRR




As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2009, 11:12 AM   #15
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I totally understand, *hugs* Being lonely sucks :(

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Old 07-06-2009, 11:21 AM   #16
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Yes I get this. Facebook made me realise that my 'best mate' doesn't even think about me anymore.
She's always going out with X, Y or Z and never invites me out, theres like a million and 1 photos of her out having fun. Then I see the msgs from her to old school friends on my news feed about going out and it is upsetting and makes me feel dead lonely.
And then when I invite her out I hear nothing. So I guess it's game over there.

I would say try and avoid FB but I know how addicting it is. I check it atleast 3 times a day.



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Old 07-06-2009, 11:25 AM   #17
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I know what you mean, it always makes me feel lonely seeing my friends having a great time without me, especially when I no longer get invited to go out with them. You're definately not alone in feeling like this.

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Old 07-06-2009, 11:41 AM   #18
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same here, thats why i deleated my account.
*cuddles*xxx





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Old 07-06-2009, 03:02 PM   #19
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I understand what you mean, it's difficult to feel left out of things. Take care of yourself.





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Old 07-06-2009, 03:10 PM   #20
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Yeah I know what you mean, I see all these pictures and I'm just like "....."

Plus one of my friends has anorexia too and her statuses are always REALLY triggering and attention seeker-y. But I can't just delete her because we've known each other for over five years and blah blah etc.

But despite these things I check it loads. =/





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