Thank you all for the advice and support you've given to M.
I'm not overly aware of the stuff that's going on in the other part(s) of the system with inner abuse etc, thankfully that isn't something we (the main part) experience. I know some of what happens to them but really my knowledge is pretty basic about the whole thing.
I know it can be very scary and dangerous for them to speak out about it, I think that's why they want to be sure of who they speak to about it first. There's currently only one other person who we know well enough to trust with that sort of thing and even they have somewhat limited info about it all. I know we're all fairly worried about the other system in case it all goes badly for them, or it could even have a big effect on us. But we also know that keeping quiet about it is going to be extremely difficult and not overly productive, I think possibly figuring out the safest way to go about it would be best, but I'm unsure how to figure that out.
We're currently out of therapy. The NHS told us that they'd help us with anxiety and depression but nothing more because it was out of their depth and they didn't have any training to be able to safely deal with us. We are debating going to our GP and asking for another referral to the NHS to see if anyone can see us long-term about DID and trauma, just one or the other isn't going to be enough. That's the hard part, we don't think anyone will be able to deal with both unless we get enough money to go privately.
Currently we're doing self-therapy, processing with journals and talking to our best friend a lot, other than that we don't have support really.
Thank you all again for responding. It's very much appreciate.