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20-11-2018, 02:07 PM
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The Shadow of the Day
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Scotland
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Hi, welcome to RYL. I think a lot of us have felt that way. There are so many conflicting emotions about self harming or trying to stop. What does self harming do for you? Are there other ways you could try and get those feelings/outcomes? Harm reduction can be a good starting point but if you're ending up cutting loads even if you tell yourself you'll only do one cut then could you get rid of the blade (I know that's scary) and replace it with something that would damage you less if you used it? It's really great that you're thinking about stopping and I hope that you will be able to when the time is right for you. Do you have any professional support?
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I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
You didn't come this far just to come this far.
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26-11-2018, 07:05 PM
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The Shadow of the Day
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Scotland
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There are other ways that you can feel and distract yourself, although I know the total experience of cutting is unique. If you want to feel pain then putting an ice cube on your skin can be really sore. I sometimes find writing on my arms is helpful and/or bandaging my arms. Having a soothing/safe/positives box near to your cutting instruments or instead of them can be good too if you try and look in the box before self harming and see if that helps. You could include things like something you like the smell of, sensory toys, colouring sheets, a list of distractions, a soft toy, affirmations, bubbles are good if you're feeling panicky. Also you could try writing down reasons not to self harm and putting them with your tools, such as doing it for your boyfriend or even simple things that make cutting a nuisance like itchy healing cuts. Do you have any friends or family you can talk to or do you know of telephone helplines in your area? I hope at least some of this is useful for you.
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I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
You didn't come this far just to come this far.
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01-12-2018, 02:41 PM
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The Shadow of the Day
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Scotland
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Well done with managing to cut less. Do you know what has been helping? You could maybe think about setting a goal and rewarding yourself with something nice when you achieve it.
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I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
You didn't come this far just to come this far.
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05-12-2018, 03:43 PM
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The Shadow of the Day
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Scotland
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Your friend trying to kill herself would be a huge trigger and difficult to deal with at this early stage of you trying to stop/reduce self harming. Try not to be hard on yourself or feel like you can't manage to stop/reduce. What feelings came up for you when your friend tried to kill herself? Maybe you could try focusing on exactly what you're feeling at the time and safer ways to work through those feelings.
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I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
You didn't come this far just to come this far.
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