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Old 23-11-2011, 05:11 AM   #581
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That was just your psych trying to guage where you are in terms of self esteem etc. It was almost certainly not meant in a "you're not very pretty...you don't have many friends kind of way". It's just that many people who self harm see the world around them and themselves differently. They typically have low self esteem and DO believe that their friends mightnot really like them, even if they actually adore them.

Hope that makes you feel a lil reassured :)

Yeah I kinda get that :)
It's just the way he went about it. And this was after he told me that there was nothing wrong with me and I was just causing problems for myself. He was just an awful man.



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Old 23-11-2011, 07:22 AM   #582
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One thing you CAN say is "I'll awlays be here for you. I care about you and love you and I'll help you. I'll even go through the relapses with you. Just please try to stop."

^This is what's maing me quit. My friend said that more or less

Sorry about kinda going off topic...

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Old 23-11-2011, 12:21 PM   #583
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I don't understand people having therapy sessions with their psychiatrists. I thought in the UK we had therapy sessions with a qualified counsellor or therapist and reviews on a set time basis with our psychiatrists (my psychiatrist usually sees me only once every three months (even on a 117) ) I thought only the USA did the psychiatrist/therapist thing?

Can anyone enlighten me? I must add that I had the same experience under CAMHS as I have the adult system.
I have talking sessions with my psychiatrist (I'm in the UK). I refuse to see counsellors, as in my experience, they like to pretend they're more qualified than they actually are. At least psychiatrists are proper doctors and know what they're talking about. They can also sort out medications etc, which as far as I'm concerned is the only way for me to get better.





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Old 23-11-2011, 05:11 PM   #584
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I have talking sessions with my psychiatrist (I'm in the UK). I refuse to see counsellors, as in my experience, they like to pretend they're more qualified than they actually are. At least psychiatrists are proper doctors and know what they're talking about. They can also sort out medications etc, which as far as I'm concerned is the only way for me to get better.
First, thank you for answering me - for a while there I didn't think I'd get any replies! I understand your reluctance to see a counsellor if you have had negative experiences.

I hope I can reassure you that although some counsellors are assholes, they all have rigorous training to become counsellors. I trained and worked my butt off for three years before I could be a counsellor. It's what the counsellor does with their training after qualifying as to how good or bad they are. Unfortunately it is the arrogant few who give the hardworking rest of us a bad name.

Take care and I hope that whatever help you receive it works for you. Thats the main thing! : )



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Old 23-11-2011, 05:13 PM   #585
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I had a weird conversation with someone recently about tattoos and scars . . . I'm at uni to become a teacher, and I said something like "I'd love to get a tattoo on my wrist, but I don't want to have to cover it up at school all the time." To which they replied "Why does it matter? You've already got scars, you're gonna have to cover those up too."

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Old 24-11-2011, 10:51 PM   #586
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I didn't even know this person, but I had to change my jacket because it was soaked, and she saw my arms and said "Are you trying to be cool? No one actually does that!" She was sneering at me, and I was just stuck going "who the hell are you??"



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Old 25-11-2011, 03:43 PM   #587
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Not exactly innapropriate, but-today in college I was low and was speaking to my tutor about it, she knows I SH and asked if I had blades on me, I decided to be honest and say yes, she asked if she could have them for the day, and give me them back when it was time to go home, so that I couldn't self harm while in college. I agreed to this as I trust her, but when it got to the end of the day she refused to give me my blades back because she can't let me self harm. Grr!



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Old 25-11-2011, 06:24 PM   #588
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I hate it when people see your scars and say "What the hell is that?" - it's pretty damn obvious what it is. Like if you seen someone on the street who had maybe been a victim of knife crime and had a scar across their face you wouldn't say "OMG WHAT IS THAT?" - cause again, it's obvious what it is.

I hate it as well when your friends say "If you feel like your going to cut yourself, can you please call me?" - Like when you're about to self harm, the last thing you're going to do is pick up the phone. I don't know about anyone else, but before I cut myself my body goes all numb and I feel so much anger that it's as if my mind goes to a completely different place.

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Old 25-11-2011, 06:27 PM   #589
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I didn't even know this person, but I had to change my jacket because it was soaked, and she saw my arms and said "Are you trying to be cool? No one actually does that!" She was sneering at me, and I was just stuck going "who the hell are you??"

People say that to me constantly - it's like "Do you think that I think it's cool to take a blade to myself and cause a permanent reminder of a bad time in life?

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Old 25-11-2011, 06:39 PM   #590
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My mum gave me a doozy recently - "You just do that because you're a virgin; you'd stop if you got laid."

I hate the "you just do it b/c" comments in general, it's like people think they know my reasons and then they invalidate them.

"So is it a goth thing?" is pretty bad too.
I think that was a terrible thing for your mum to say. It's almost as if she's encouraging you to lose your virginity. Not cool.

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Old 26-11-2011, 12:15 AM   #591
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nobodys ever said it in direction to me cause no one knows I SH but these are ones that they say infront of me:
'jheez. Do you want a razor blade with that status'
'wouldnt surprise me if theyre just attention seeking'
'how depressing can their life really be.. just get a grip'
'woah don't anger her, she'll shank herself'
(shank means stab for those who don't know btw) ... but yea. Precisely the reason why I don't tell no one "/

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Old 26-11-2011, 05:07 AM   #592
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Here's a recent quip from my mother:
"If I find that you are scratching again, I'll have you arrested."

She always refers to my cutting as scratching to make it seem like it's a trivial problem. I think she does it purposefully to get on my nerves.



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Old 27-11-2011, 03:13 PM   #593
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Thats ridiculous hun^^^ I'm sorry your mum isnt understanding or supportive.



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Old 28-11-2011, 03:28 AM   #594
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This week, my mum saw some marks on the back of my wrist from my elastic band (i'm sorta trying to stop).
She said "Do you like hurting yourself?!" And I explained that it was a spare hair tie and she nodded. Then she said "But some older girls cut their wrists with knives because it feels good? It's horrible." I nodded and walked out. It was so awkward o.o





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Old 28-11-2011, 05:18 AM   #595
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Seriously happened..:

Dad, I have something to tell you..

What?

I... think I need help with something.. I cut myself.. I have been for a while.. and it is getting out of hand.. and I just want to stop.

Haha. You are an idiot. *walks away*

Thanks dad.. thanks for the help...

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Old 28-11-2011, 06:24 AM   #596
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"So i would give you some stitches but you obveously like the scaring."

and

"I wont bother giving a locol anasetic when i stitch you because you like the pain right?"

This was a long time ago now but it still really angers me that people like this can call them self doctors!




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Old 28-11-2011, 11:46 AM   #597
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I don't understand people having therapy sessions with their psychiatrists. I thought in the UK we had therapy sessions with a qualified counsellor or therapist and reviews on a set time basis with our psychiatrists (my psychiatrist usually sees me only once every three months (even on a 117) ) I thought only the USA did the psychiatrist/therapist thing?

Can anyone enlighten me? I must add that I had the same experience under CAMHS as I have the adult system.
I was thinking the same.
When I first went to adult I saw my psych every week but not for therapy,was a regular check to make sure things were ticking along,or if things weren't.
All therapy I've had has been with psychologists/councellors,in my area psychiatrists are purely for check up/med change,cpns cover both psych/councellor jobs.
The psychiatrist covering my area would make the worst therapist ever!


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Old 29-11-2011, 03:59 AM   #598
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This more amused me then annoyed me but my dad tonight honestly turned around to me and said

"I cut my finger and work today; i honestly dont see what you see in it, it bloody hurt!"

I mean searously dad!




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Old 29-11-2011, 04:29 AM   #599
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My dad was verbally abusing my mom. I got pissed and told him to stop being such an "a#$%^&*". He told me to go cut myself.



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Old 29-11-2011, 05:45 AM   #600
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Boyfriend says to me - But its in the past now, you dont need to think about it.

It takes up almost every minute of my life. Thinking about doing it. Thinking about what people think looking at it. Seeing people on the streets with cuts that they show off. Not being able to stop looking at peoples arms to see if theyre doing it. Wishing i could do it right now. Wishing the scars wouldnt stay there. Hoping nobody sees how badly i want to do it. Making sure that no one knows about me. Wishing people would stop asking me "god what happend to your arms? were you in an accident"

IM SO ****ING TRIGGERED!!!
You're not alone in this, hun. I hope you can get through these particularly triggering moments by either talking to someone about your feelings (therapist, or a close friend/family member who won't judge you...I usually choose the therapist), or by just staying in another person's company so you can stay safe.
*Warm hugs* <3

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