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28-03-2015, 09:20 PM
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It's Bouquet! B-U-C-K-E-T!
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Wales, UK
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Contains sexual abuse - Did he take away my virginity?
I was bullied as well as SA. I was having a really bad day and I used to take out all my woes to my abuser. He replied (well something along the lines I cant remember exactly) "well I love you, and I want to show you how much I care. I want to make love to you" and promptly started kissing me.
Next thing I knew he was undressing me and we were having sex. I dont consider it r*pe because part of me wanted it. I wanted someone to care. He didnt care about it, and he was rough and selfish. I bled a lot and continued bleeding non stop for about two weeks afterwards.
I think he did because he was the first man I had sex with. But my ex-SA counsellor said that he didnt, because he took advantage of me. Whatever, from a legal point of view, we broke the law because I was 13 at the time. I was in my 20s before I had consentual sex.
So the question remains: did I lose my virginity to my abuser or my ex bf who was consentual?
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Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson
"I hear those voices that will not be drowned"
Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
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29-03-2015, 10:18 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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I would personally always view that abuse does not take away ones virginity. Consent is a massive part of taking the choice to be with someone sexually, especially the first time. It's the key thing in fact.
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30-03-2015, 06:58 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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I just wanted to reply & send you *hugs* & to say that I agree with everyone else & that I'm thinking of you. <3
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30-03-2015, 08:08 PM
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I'm safe up high.
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: On a cloud
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I'm low on words, but I agree with others, I believe that consent is required to take virginity. It should be a choice.
Take care of yourself *hugs*
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Have you ever looked fear in the face and said "I just don't care"?
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10-05-2015, 12:37 AM
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It's Bouquet! B-U-C-K-E-T!
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Wales, UK
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Thanks everyone for their replies (sorry I didnt answer this sooner, tbh I forgot about it).
I guess that I didnt lose my virginity to my abuser, but my ex instead.
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Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson
"I hear those voices that will not be drowned"
Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
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