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Old 17-09-2008, 08:00 PM   #1
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Triggering (SI/Sexual Abuse) - my niece SA TRIGGER

I just found out this afternoon that my niece has been sexually abused by her friends granddad
he has been arrested but that is all that i know of at the moment
my niece is 14 but has the mental age of 7

we are all in shock and upset

i don't know what to feel just so upset right now cry

i also feel so triggered that i need to cut am trying not to but it just so hard right now

am now having flashbacks of my own abuse when i was her age


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Old 17-09-2008, 10:30 PM   #2
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Sexual abuse is a tough thing to live with. It happened to me 3 times since I was 5. haha. 3 different guys too. 3 different points in my life. And, now, I cant trust men. I cant stay in an honest, committed relationship. I turely, truely dispise men. And, because of me, not one of the guys is in jail.

So, my point is, thank god that you guys found out. That he has been arrested. So many guys get away with it because women are afraid to speak up. And, thats not right.

And thank god that she's ok. I mean, she will never heal from it. I dont think anybody ever fully does. But, be there for her to talk to. You know how she feels. You know where she's been. And, she will need someone like that to speak to.

Everything will be alright.



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Old 18-09-2008, 04:54 AM   #3
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*hugs* That's terrible to hear honey, and I can understand the triggers but at least she told whiel she's still yougn and I'm sure she'll get the help she needs. Since it wasn't too long ago perhaps there can even be a convinction. Try to focus on yourself, and just give her some comfort. Also, normal things help, just have some time to play or go to the park or movies.

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Old 18-09-2008, 09:03 AM   #4
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*hugs* poor you and poor niece. you need to try and stay strong for your niece at this difficult support. she may even turn to you if she knows that you have been through similar. if you need someone to talk to then my pm box is always open. x

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Old 19-09-2008, 06:20 PM   #5
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I have just spotted this thread...I know we were talking about it the other day but I just wanted to say that I hope that the weekend goes well. It should give her parents a bit of a break and it will be good for you to see her too. How is she doing?




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Old 20-09-2008, 07:24 PM   #6
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at the moment it is a good thing that she is here
the daughter of the guy that abused my neice turned up at my dad work drunk then at my sisters house my sister got the police
as she was threating my sister and the kids

my neice dont know that that went on as we are not wanting to upset her any more than she already is

she goes home to her grans on tomorrow hopefully she will stay away from my mums house and my sisters from now on





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Old 21-09-2008, 03:18 PM   #7
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I'm glad that she has had a good weekend with you and that she didn't have the additional trauma of witnessing the guys daughter turn up like that.

She has been through enough already.




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