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Old 12-02-2019, 05:22 PM   #1
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Contains abuse - Telling the truth?

How do i tell my therapist about the abuse i went through as a kid and as a adult?

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Old 13-02-2019, 06:11 PM   #2
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That is a brave thought and could be a good step. What makes it difficult for you to disclose? Would it be any easier for you to write something and give it to your therapist?





I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.


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Old 13-02-2019, 06:35 PM   #3
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Ive only been seeing her for a few times and im scared too
No im too scared to

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Old 13-02-2019, 07:23 PM   #4
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Maybe as you get further into therapy you will feel more able to trust her and a little more comfortable with sharing difficult stuff.





I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.


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Old 13-02-2019, 07:37 PM   #5
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Ok I'll try. .....

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Old 14-02-2019, 12:53 AM   #6
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It can definitely be difficult to feel safe discussing things of this nature. If you think it might be easier or help explain symptoms you're experiencing, maybe you could say something along the lines of 'I went through some difficult experiences both as a child and as an adult, but I'm not currently ready to talk about them. I'd like to build up some safety in our therapeutic relationship first.' just to kind of give her a heads up that there is a history there AND make it clear that you're not ready just yet to delve into something so difficult.

I started with a new therapist back in September and we've still not really gotten into the vast, vast majority of my experiences because it takes time to build up the safety in the relationship and build up skills to be able to tolerate discussing them. There's nothing to say you need to delve into the worst stuff right away, and there's absolutely no shame in taking your time to build up skills and safety in your therapeutic relationship before throwing yourself into the deep end.

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Old 14-02-2019, 02:47 PM   #7
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Ok I'll try that. .....

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Old 19-02-2019, 06:47 PM   #8
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I’m going to see my therapist this week on Thursday so wish me luck

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Old 20-02-2019, 04:10 PM   #9
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I hope it goes well. Only do what you feel comfortable with.





I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.


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Old 20-02-2019, 06:51 PM   #10
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ok i will

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Old 02-03-2019, 02:48 PM   #11
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How are things with your therapist now as you get more used to her?
Have you been able to discuss any of these issues with her?
Keep in mind that you don't have to tell your therapist everything at once, unless of course that's what's best for you.
During the difficulty of disclosing, please go at your own pace and do what feels safe and comfortable for you.

If you have discussed this with her already, I hope it went well!

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Old 07-03-2019, 09:19 PM   #12
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It went well
Yeah some of it but not all of it.....
Ok thanks

She wants me to write a letter to my abusers

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Old 12-03-2019, 06:21 PM   #13
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You mean to actually send to your abusers, or just write what you would want to say to them?



'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'

[''There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']

'I wish I was the monster you think I am.'


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Old 21-03-2019, 10:55 PM   #14
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Write what I would say to them

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Old 22-03-2019, 03:08 PM   #15
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Have you had a go at writing the letter?





I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.


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Old 29-05-2019, 10:23 PM   #16
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No we talked about it and stuff but we didn’t write like she said that I would

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