Try not to feel guilty (although I know me saying that can't change feelings!) - what's important is that you're in the best state of mind to look after Harlan, and a happy mummy equals a happy baby. Breastfeeding is incredibly hard work, and trying to carry on if you're already struggling with your mental health wouldn't have been right for either of you. Don't worry about him trying to latch on either, Oliver still tries to latch onto anything (including his dad and people's noses) so it doesn't mean he's missing it or anything - it's just a reflex.
Ragdoll, you're doing what's best for you and for Harlan. A happier mum will be better for him, then breast milk, because if you're down, it'll be harder to bond with him and cope with being a new mum. Don't feel guilty about it, you tried and it wasn't working out for you.
I never even attempted to breast fed, and i do often feel guilty about it, but then i think, well no, i'm not comfortable enough with myself to have even been shown properly how to do and i would have just hid myself away and that wouldn't of been good for me or Esmé, so really bottle feeding her was best. Like it is now with you and Harlan. Don't let it get you down.
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
i agree with everyone else here - dont feel guilty about giving up breastfeeding, it is incredibly difficult and its not the be all and end all. you made the right decision for you and harlan. you are doing great chick and he is beautiful. i got dibs on him for freyja! lol
kelly, oliver is so cuuuute in that video!!! second one didnt work for me either, took me to a list of my friends vids.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
I agree that you shouldn't worry that harlan is still trying to latch on. Adela tries to latch to anything if she is hungry. It sounds like you are doing really well!
I've got to take Adela for her 2nd set of jabs tomorrow :(
9 calendar months? or 36weeks? was he born early?
chloe's dadadadadada-ing and mamamama-ing like crazy. had a bad stomach today, found her baby juice had solid bits in it... was only opened on friday and has been kept in fridge (meant to use within 7 days) so took it back for refund.
so we're not giving her food today, just milk and water to keep her fluids up.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
1. Bring basket of laundry into the bedroom and set it on the floor.
2. Clear off the bed so you will have a place to fold clothes. Put dirty clothes into hamper, and put away miscellaneous toys, books, shoes, etc.
3. Make the bed.
4. Chase after toddler who just walked by with a toothbrush and a bottle of paint.
5. Shoo children off the bed and make it again.
6. Dump the clean laundry out onto the bed. Panic for a moment when a red crayon also falls out of the laundry basket, until you see that there's no melted wax anywhere. Sigh with relief.
7. Tell your 7 year old how to spell "grenade." Pause for a second, then decide not to ask.
8. Pull out one white towel from the pile of clean clothes.
9. Smile and tell your toddler how helpful she's being.
10. Surreptitiously toss the dirty sock she brought you back into the hamper.
11. Put the dirty sock back in the hamper again.
12. Put the dirty sock back in the hamper again.
13. In frustration, scold your toddler, put the dirty sock back in the hamper, close the lid, and set the hamper somewhere she can't reach.
14. Feel guilty, hug your toddler and thank her for trying to help. Get her a cookie.
15. Come back into the bedroom and -- hey, where'd the towel go?
16. Find the towel where the dog knocked it onto the floor and set it back on the bed.
17. Freeze as your 7 year old yells, "Hey mommy! We made MUD GRENADES!"
18. Give everyone a bath.
19. Use the towel to dry them off.
20. Throw the towel back into the dirty clothes hamper.
An amazing thing happened today. Madeleine noticed she'd done a poo! Normally she does it, then carries on doing whatever she was doing before she did a poo - except more smelly.
She was sitting in her high chair eating her lunch and she did a poo. She stopped eating and said 'oh dear oh dear oh dear oh dear....'. She wouldn't eat another bite until I changed her nappy!
An amazing thing happened today. Madeleine noticed she'd done a poo! Normally she does it, then carries on doing whatever she was doing before she did a poo - except more smelly.
She was sitting in her high chair eating her lunch and she did a poo. She stopped eating and said 'oh dear oh dear oh dear oh dear....'. She wouldn't eat another bite until I changed her nappy!
Potty training here we come!
Heehee, I found myself giggling, only a parent could find poo-ing amazing! :P
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
yeah you dont have to name him lou. in fact, if you are not married then he has to be present to be named. at least in scotland that is the case. i had to take jamie with me to sign it because we werent married. whereas with his first child he went by himself to register the birth because his wife was still in the hospital.
well done maddie!
and yes parents are excited by poo lol. i remember comparing her poo to the picture chart i got from the hospital going yay! its mustardy with seeds in! we are on target!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
and he is beautiful. i got dibs on him for freyja! lol 
