Ok I had an appointment today about a burn and they said I have to have a skin graft under general anaesthetic. Tomorrow!!! The hospital with the burn clinic is about two hours travel from home (public transport). I will have to stay in tomorrow night almost definitly but should be discharged on friday morning. As I am 16 I am not telling my mum at all, a friend says I can say i'm sleeping over with her tomorrow night. Only thing is I'm really really scared, bout the operation and my mum finding out and having to do it all alone.
Anybody had this done? or just general support would be good??
I just decided to move your thread because it appears to be anting more emotional rather than medical support and so it would be better here. If you want it moving back then you cna discuss this with a forum mod but I think in terms of emotions it would be better here.
I hope it all goes well. I think it would be a good idea for your mum to know. You can just say it was an accident as 3rd degree burns can occur by simple accidents in the home. It's just if anything goes wrong your mum will really be able to support you and I think it would be a very hard or you to go through this without anyone in your family knowing as it is quite serious. If you say it was accidental then you don't have to bring in the who SH (presuming that was the cause) side of things which I can definately understand you not wanting them to know.
whats stopping you fro telling your family? you need as much support as you can get? wat about the friend offerin a place to stay...could s/he come with you and support you? x
I just can't, last time she knew about my self harm she just told me how selfish and generally evil I am, didn't show any signs of support at any point. I am really trying now to stop completely and think I might have a good chance, but if she knows it'll make things so much worse and I won't be able to.
The whole thing is so out of hand now though, really elaborate cover up, she's agreed to me 'staying at friends house' tomorrow night but my day is looking so complicated: i've got to leave for school as normal, go and explain to the secretary why i'm missing school (truthfully) then get across town to the station, get cash out/top up phone, buy my ticket, then two trains and a bus to get to place with hospital by 11, followed by afternoon skin graft and evening spent trying to keep the cover up going. I'm so terrified that it won't work and she'll find out, plus terrified bout actual thing. No friends can come because its about two hours travel from where we live, plus they all at sixth form with me, so can't get out of that
wow sweetheart you are majorly brave! as for the skin graft im not sure how you are going to hide it, do you have to go back for redressing etc?
think it is a good idea to speak to the school about it cos then you at least have some support there.
we are all here to support you hun, but make sure there is someone in your (real) life to help you out cos it is quite a big thing to have a graft and you will need time to recover
*huggles* xx
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
thanks, i don't feel very brave(i'm terrified)! :) I don't know about going back they haven't told me, hopefully i can get that done at the local hospital which is twenty minutes from home, as opposed to spending the whole day travelling!!
My friends have been pretty amazing really, one of them is giving me the alibi of staying at her house!! And generally they're being really nice about it all.
Can't believe in 12 hours will be getting my second train of the day, almost there! Can't wait for it all to be over, to get back on friday :)
xxxx
p.s. l'il esky - I love the bright coloured sock monkey :)
Let us know how things go hun - well done, you've done great. Even though you don't feel able to turn to your mother I'm glad you turned to us, your friend and was honest with the school.
Take care,
Chloe x
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Courage isn't handed to us, but we are given opportunities to be courageous.
thanks for all the messages, was discharged this morning and got back about 1. Went into school and saw my friends and even went to my last lesson of the day.
People at school kept asking me what had happened cos I have a huge bandage on my arm (makes my arm at least twice its original size) and at school had it out of sleeve it barely fits in and have to keep it held up. Decided to stick to almost the truth and told people I had slipped and burned my arm on the fire and had to have a skin graft! Mum still doesn't know. Having to wear top with biggest sleeves ever and still tight, I have to go back on friday for a check up and if it's ok I get the dressing taken off!!! Only a week to go on hiding it!!
Anyway hospital was horribly scary and lonely but feel a bit better now, arm doesn't hurt at all (even though not on painkillers at moment) leg (donor site) hurts a fair bit, i even have a silly limp now!!!
aww hunni pie, im really proud of you for getting through this!
hope you are ok, yeh your leg will prob take a bit longer to heal because it is a diff type of wound to heal. i hope your arm heals up well and quickly. i think at some point you may find you have to tellyour mum something but depends how badly you scar i suppose....i heal like crap and always have huge scars so i cant hide anything very easily so majorly have to think about where i do it! anyway, am always here if you need me!!
look after yourself and make sure you get lots of rest, you've had a scary couple of days xx
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
wow im so proud of u!!.... i remember when i cut myself and needed stitches.... i left it open for two days and then told a friend she told mi dad and i was scared cuz i thout id have to get stitches alone and thats simple in comparison to a skin graft.... ur such a brave person i hope u realise how brave.... hope it all heals well xx
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I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
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Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
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Anyway hospital was horribly scary and lonely but feel a bit better now, arm doesn't hurt at all (even though not on painkillers at moment) leg (donor site) hurts a fair bit
Yeah, when I had to have a skin graft my donor site was horribly painful, but where I had the skin graft I was in no pain whatsoever. The hospital gave Co-codamol, but it didn't really help.
I had mine done under a local anaesthetic, it's much less scary when you know what's going on.
Hope it heals well xxx
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Thanks again for all the messages, I've been feeling a bit shaken up after all the drama! :) and they've made me feel better.
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Yeah, when I had to have a skin graft my donor site was horribly painful, but where I had the skin graft I was in no pain whatsoever. The hospital gave Co-codamol, but it didn't really help.
Yeah different kind of wound I suppose, their form of giving me painkillers was to say as they discharged me that I could take paracetamol when i needed them :)
Anyway have survived a whole weekend with my mum without her noticing that one of my arms is about twice the size it used to be :) only four more days and then if all is healing well I will get most of the bandages off! :)
:D yep, almost there!! I'm ok thanks, bit sore and achy, can't wait to be rid of the bandage!!! Can't believe that my mum still hasn't noticed - not that i'm complaining!
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