My grandma died

[Buttons.]

Even at the service it was suggested I use a hand held microphone when I go and read, official reason is I wouldnt be able to reach podium from wheelchair, real reason last funeral we were both at my abuser deliberately sat in the seat nearst the podium and stared me out the entire time I was reading. But if hiding me works this time then BRILL.

[Auror.]

<3 I don't have better words. But do what is safest and feels best for you, and what is the closet thing to what your grandma would have wanted.

[Buttons.]

She'd have wanted us all to get on and me to read my stupid poem.

[one_step_closer]

You are important, your wellbeing is important. I hope you can say a proper goodbye to your grandma and avoid other distress from people etc as much as possible.

[Zedebee]

Buttons is having a really really hard time with this and I'm sure she would appreciate some words of encouragement. The funeral is Monday and I am going to be there so will pass on any messages if she doesn't get a chance to see this.

[Irisflower]

We care about you, Katy. We're thinking of you. ❤

[tamobhuuta]

Thinking of you and sending love x

[one_step_closer]

You can do this Buttons (not sure if you wanted to use your name on here), sending lots of love. We are here for you.

[Auror.]

<33333 Lots of love to you, Buttons. We will be thinking of you, PM if you need.

[Zurg]

You can do this Katy!!!! We're here for you and we'll cheer you on!!!! <3

[Zedebee]

Update - Buttons is in the hospital and won't be able to make it to the funeral. I'm going to go and be with her and will pass on all of your messages. Aa difficult time for both of us and we really appreciate the support..

[Zedebee]

She's highly medicated at the moment but once she comes round I know it's going to be super hard for her to accept not being there.

[nonperson]

Thinking of you and sending lots of love. Buttons, I hope in time you can say goodbye to your grandma in your own way. <3

[one_step_closer]

*hugs both*

[Koala hugs]

Huge hugs I don't know u but I'm thinking of you

[tiptoes]

Hope you are OK. Take care lovely

[Bellatrix]

How is Katy doing?

[Buttons.]

Hi thankyou all so so so much for your support it means the world. Sorry haven't replied/been active just felt so bleugh emotionally and physically. Got out of hospital after 10 days then back in for a week as caught an infection. Physical health pretty crummy which I'll say more about if/when I'm ready.

Still grieving obviously but handling it with the support of the lovely Zed and others.

One piece of good news out of all the other shit going on is that I am Finally being moved to disabled friendly property which should improve my quality of life heaps and make things a lot easier. Will have been in a wheelchair 3 years February if I'm correct so big relief to move to somewhere more appropriate as obv the house I'm in (two floors has not been appropriate for a long time (I can't even remember properly what the upstairs looks like, have a bed in my living room and commode downstairs as obv bathroom and bedroom upstairs that' been impossible for quite some time and kitchen and stuff is challenging as not adapated. So very very happy about moving, it's supposed to be a nice area I'm moving to, has enclosed garden and nearby park and nature resevoir thing perfect for dog and even though will be a fair bit further away from town centre there's apparently a fairly decent shopping centre near it so win, win win.

[nonperson]

That's so good about the house move! =)

[one_step_closer]

That's great about the move, I'm so pleased for you. Look after yourself and use all the support you have. <3