I keep seeing threads where people say that they say that RYL has changed a lot. It's the reason why a lot of people of have left.
I've been coming here a long time and I've contributed to many threads. And started a couple of my own. But I'm just seeing the same place I've always been going to.
How exactly has this place changed?
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I think its more the people have changed..
But yeah it has in some ways but that doesn't mean its a bad thing in a lot of ways I think it has changed for the better because it reaches more people and can help alot more people.
But yes I would say these days it does seem to try and bubble wrap everything a lot more which can be a bit frustrating at time buts thats life isn't itnothing stays the same forever and this place has to adapt to accomdate how many members there are and stuff
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
I think places like these will change. As more people join and other's leave it won't be the same place to some any more.
I think it's more noticable to those who have left and come back. To those who have stayed it probably happens so gradually that they don't really see the change.
People who have been here a long time are likely to have matured and either progressed in their recovery or have a different grasp on their illness, then along comes new members who are likely to be younger and possibly new to their illness. I think this can grate slightly on people.
Some people just don't like change or are more sensitive towards it, other people can grow with the change. I think it totally depends on the person.
It's changed. I can't say exactly how or why it's changed but it has.
I use to be able to come one here, post replys or start my own threads, but now I feel like I can't. The only place I really feel I can post in is Ranting and Venting cos no one can really get mad at me in there.
It's sad, I use to love this place but when I needed it the most I had to stop coming.
It's changed a lot since the days of ruin and early recover.
The community was a lot smaller and everyone knew each other and this place had a really good atmosphere.
Now there's so many people and it's lost it's community feel. And there's loads of cliques and people being bitchy and sometimes it's harder to get support.
But things change.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
I was thinking about this earlier.
I guess RYL is getting too bubble wrappy, and I tink someone in the other thread said what I thought.
but yeah.
i notice it a lot nowadays, especially when i go to post.
everything changes, i'm not too bothered. this place is how it is, there's plenty of other places to go if you want real life. no point moaning about it.
in 1999 or whenever ruin was, not everyone had a computer, and internet usage wasnt an every day thing like it is now. plus, RYL hadnt been advertised on tv and in newspapers so people would really have to look to find it.
There are people on this website now that are 12 years old... we didnt have a computer at home when i was that age.
RYL has changed, but times have changed too, everything is more bubble wrappy, and everyone is so scared about who might sue them that a lot of stuff has to be done on egg shells.
I guess Harley/RYL has to do a lot to keep its self safe from a legal point of view that its not always easy to allow the content that some people would prefer.
yessssssssss! i think it's getting too overprotective and needs to be more real life and bring people back to reality.
i don't think anyone can recover until they start to realise that you won't always be protected like this site does. i just think an injection of real life is needed...
I didn't mean it JUST as a place to rant, otherwise it would be a rather pointless suggestion when we have a ranting board (which people reply to via PMs sometimes)
Its more of an area of discussion for those who want to be realistic without infringing the saftey of other, more sensitive, members...
i agree em.. i see so many threads with people moaning about things such as 'im 14 and my mum wont me smoke or stay out untill midnight' and everybody is scared to say 'well duh.. youre ****ing 14'
i saw a thread a while ago where someone said that she was 15 and her mum made her go to bed on a school night at 10pm or something, and someone actually replied and said 'thats well out of order, its practically abuse' and no body but me, i think, said anything about it at all.
i think its things like that that are more damaging than 'stop being such a spoilt dick, realise youre still a child and learn to respect your parents.'
i sounded like Jeremy Kyle in that last sentence.. score!!
ive been here for three years now and it has changed, but some change is good.
obviously having far more people does effect the whole community vibe, but if more people are getting help and support i dont mind.
however, the only times i really feel the change is when i go to post something to get it out or get real advice when im completely messed up, im like ahh i cant say that, oh or that and it doesnt feel like im getting it all out if i have to censor half of what i want to say.
^ I do agree with that actually sometimes it does get ridiculous and then you see people trying to reply what everyone is thinking but they have to be careful how they say it or it sparks off an argument. People dont like hearing the truth sometimes
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
i agree em.. i see so many threads with people moaning about things such as 'im 14 and my mum wont me smoke or stay out untill midnight' and everybody is scared to say 'well duh.. youre ****ing 14'
i saw a thread a while ago where someone said that she was 15 and her mum made her go to bed on a school night at 10pm or something, and someone actually replied and said 'thats well out of order, its practically abuse'
i think its things like that that are more damaging than 'stop being such a spoilt dick, realise youre still a child and learn to respect your parents.'
i sounded like Jeremy Kyle in that last sentence.. score!!
Completely agree. I don't know wether it's because I'm getting older and more mature, or if some people generally have no clue. But some people I do want to pick up and shake them and point out just how much worse things could be!
