I was in family therapy the other day and we were talking about the time when I was hurt/abused by a friend of mine. I have always had trouble seeing it as abuse and that it was wrong because the guy was the same age and because I liked our relationship in the beginning, which meant it got confusing when it turned into abuse, because I didnt know whether it was wrong. I knew I felt very uncomfortable, and I coped by dissociating.
My family therapist told me how abusers work, which really helped. She said that abusers do things gradually and remind you that you enjoyed it in the beginning, and that because it gradually turns into being hurt, there are so many feelings. Also, because I already had feelings towards him, which was even more confusing because I was being hurt, yet I stil had feelings for him.
I am trying to change how I think about him in the way that Im trying to think that what he did was wrong and unacceptable, but its so hard. I dont know how to get him out of my head, how to move on. I dont want to talk to him, and I dont think I want to go to the police. I am scared of falling for him again, which would make things a lot harder. Anyone got any ideas.
Im so confused at the moment, so sorry if this post doesnt really make sense.