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Old 28-08-2020, 01:58 PM   #1
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Me and my sister

My sister has lots of the symptoms of AN. To be honest i am jealous of her weight but i know I can't support her if part of me feels that way. Does anyone have experience of supporting someone in this situation?


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Old 30-08-2020, 02:41 PM   #2
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Old 13-10-2020, 11:59 AM   #3
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My sister is looking so thin, even more than her natural figure. We try not to put pressure on her, we don't want food to be a battle ground. Yesterday i agreed to have a snack with her and i think that helped her.

I wish I was as thin as her.



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Old 24-10-2020, 11:34 AM   #4
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My mum reckons my eating is disordered. But I'm a healthy size so i think I can get away with eating a bit less. Anyway, my parents are overweight so how can they criticize me?



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Old 24-10-2020, 12:07 PM   #5
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The title of this should be 'me and my sister', i can't get it to change.



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Old 24-10-2020, 07:25 PM   #6
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Overweight people can still have disordered eating too, as well as have the ability to recognise when someone else's behavior is unhealthy. Being overweight doesn't make them any less reliable in the fact that they care about you and you can likely trust them to recognise when something isn't right.

I'm sorry you're struggling with this.



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Old 24-10-2020, 10:55 PM   #7
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When I’m on my laptop I can change the title properly if you like?

Camden is wise. It doesn’t sound like your parents were trying to criticise you, more that they are worried because completely separate from anyone’s weight (theirs or yours) they see that the relationship you have with food is unhealthy. Are you only ever concerned about your sister’s eating when she is noticeably underweight? Would you feel fine with her acting the way she does about food if she was a healthy weight? I feel like you wouldn’t and so probably do accept that even though you’re a healthy weight, it doesn’t mean you can’t have disordered eating.

Do you and/or your sister access any professional ED help?



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Old 25-10-2020, 10:44 AM   #8
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If you could change the title, that would be great.

Thank you for your replies. I think that if she was a healthy weight, there would still be a problem because she has very poor body image. My parents say my body image is bad too but i genuinely do have a sticky out belly and small boobs.

Neither of us have been offered treatment for EDs. My sister reckons it's down to her depression and PTSD. A few years ago i was on a bigger dose of clozapine and was much less bothered about my weight, even though I was overweight.



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Old 25-10-2020, 10:54 AM   #9
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I don't weigh myself because I would be ashamed of the number.



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Old 28-10-2020, 03:11 PM   #10
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I reckon i eat more rubbish than proper food but still under eat. That's ok, right?


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Old 07-11-2020, 11:57 AM   #11
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In most clothes i am a size x, but i wore clothes yesterday that were bigger and they fitted too. But my sister says they are too big for me. I don't believe her. What do i do?



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Old 07-11-2020, 12:11 PM   #12
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I'd say don't believe her. Clothing sizes vary anyway. If they fitted (or even if they were too big) and you felt comfortable then that's all that matters.

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