Originally Posted by
MCMongoose
Yes I do. And the fact is I am "involuntarily celibate" unless you count not paying for it as a choice. I'm sick of the internet ruining language. Apparently a "nice guy" is one of the worst things one can be. I can't help that I was raised to be nice to people.
If you're referring to the Reddit concept of "nice guy", they're really not nice at all. These are men who believe that because they're supposedly nice to women, that they should owe them sex in return, and usually get really nasty if they're rejected. They're not nice at all. Being a nice person is a wonderful thing, but being nice purely on the hope that you'll get sex as a reward isn't nice. I hope that helps a little - nobody is telling you not to be nice, and it's still a good quality in a human.
I don't think you're pathetic for being a virgin. Lots of people won't either. Anyone who does isn't worth your time. In this world we do have sex shoved in our faces every day, and I can completely understand why it would get you feeling a bit deflated if you're not having any, but it's really not the be all and end all. It sounds like the bigger thing that would help you is working on your confidence, rather than just losing your virginity. If you can feel happier, more confident and less hung up about this, it'll help in the long run, and may in turn make you more likely to find a partner you want to share that with.