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Old 23-10-2018, 11:18 PM   #1
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The lgbt 🏳️*🌈 dating scene

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I came out of closet to my parents a few momths back as I had feeling that was one of my mental health triggers and one thing that I needed to find out for myself. So I met this girl through the pride event we chatted and exchanged Facebook details and then we started messaging and getting a bit flirty. However I am really new to the scene and I have naive as have no clue of being on the dating scene....... so I am little stuck for what to say when we meet up and bond. I also get extremely anxious in social istuations even with one or two people I don’t know well.



Have you ever confused a dream with life? Or stolen something when you have the cash? Have you ever been blue? Or thought your train moving while sitting still? Maybe I was just crazy. Maybe it was the 60's. Or maybe I was just a girl... interrupted.
I know what it's like to want to die. How it hurts to smile. How you try to fit in but you can't. How you hurt yourself on the outside to try to kill the thing on the inside. I tried groups, didn't work out just made my depression a lot worse.

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Old 26-10-2018, 12:28 PM   #2
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Hey, well done on coming out. Were your parents supportive?

Do you and this girl have plans to meet up? I sometimes find it helpful to think about topics of conversation in advance. Even if the conversation ends up flowing quite naturally and I don't end up needing my conversation starters, I feel better when I feel prepared! You could think about what you already know about this girl and have a few ideas of things to ask that you would find interesting to know about and that it seems like she'd enjoy talking about. For example maybe she has an interesting job or hobby, or perhaps she's mentioned something that she's passionate about. You could also think about if there's any low-intensity current affairs (i.e. not Brexit) that you could chat about or a local news story that is funny/heartwarming.

Another thing I'm very keen on is having an exit plan! Hopefully you two will get on well and it won't be needed, but maybe it would help to know what your excuse for leaving will be just in case it isn't going well or if you're just feeling too anxious.

I hope that helps a bit and that things go well with the girl; good luck!



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