Need life career advice
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Brief personal history:
I didn't get very good grades in school. Always screwing around and never applied myself. I dropped out of high school junior year. (supposed to be class of 2000) I worked dead end jobs and lived the "roommate-binge drinking-party life" the next 10 years. I got my GED by the skin of my teeth 10 years after dropping out of high school. Since then I've continued working dead end jobs. I would always hate the job I was at because I knew it was a dead end job and i was going nowhere fast. I must have had 30 jobs since i started working at 16. My work history is a checkered past of crap jobs I never stay at for more than 1 or 2 years. I've stepped away from the friend circle, binge drinking party scene. I now live with my girlfriend and 2 kids for the past 7 years and live a more quite family lifestyle. I'm still stuck in the dead end job world.
So...
I see people my age or younger in successful situations (dentist, nurse) and I end up beating myself up about it in comparison. I deeply regret wasting my 20's being irresponsible and screwing off. I desperately want to do and be better but i just don't know how. I don't want anything terribly unrealistic. Id like a career that pays well, enables me to provide for my family, go on vacation once every 2 years or so, saving for retirement/nice nest egg for my golden years so i don't end up a Walmart greeter when I'm old. Be a home owner, vehicles paid off. That's about it.
I look at the local university, the community colleges, the trade schools. The biggest problem I have is I just cant find anything that I'm passionate about. I'm so desperate now and feel the clock ticking that I'm willing to just do whatever now as long as it provides me with what I want. Accounting degree/career(pretty sure that's boring as hell), something in medical, a construction trade. The second problem I have is serious doubt about my academic abilities. I sucked at school, hated math and have difficulty learning if someone doesn't teach it in a crystal clear way so i truly understand it. The third problem I have is every time I mention I may be interested in a certain degree/career choice somebody/everybody always shoots it down and "naysays" it. Giving me doubt about it so I back pedal and start to re-review options again.
So in closing I don't know what the heck to do and I'm kinda suffering from depression about all of this. I don't want my kids to get older and see dad didn't make it very far in life and have it affect their personal choices, struggling down the same road I have. I need to get the ball rolling. I'm all revved up with no direction. Does anybody have some advice and or willing to have a back and forth conversation on this with me? Thanks for your time
Last edited by Spacemonkey907 : 23-01-2018 at 10:55 PM.
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