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Old 28-09-2019, 04:23 PM   #1281
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What are the possible other reasons why the psychologist didn't see you yesterday? Obviously 'she couldn't be bothered' is allowed to be on that list, but I think there are other things that need to be there.

For example, in the past I had a thing where I was really good at deciding that people hated me and/or were dead, especially if they didn't respond to a text message and it was really useful for me to try to 'brainstorm' other explanations. At the start I still mainly thought that they hated me, but forcing myself to list things like "maybe they lost their phone" and "maybe they think I didn't want a response" helped me to gradually become less attached to the 'everyone hates me' commentary that used to accompany my life!



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Old 28-09-2019, 05:50 PM   #1282
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I suppose she didn't have time because I wasn't a priority to her

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Old 28-09-2019, 07:10 PM   #1283
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Even if you weren't a priority it wouldn't have been *you* as a person who wasn't a priority. Sometimes people just have a lot of work to do and have to decide what to get on with and when to get on with it. She said she will see you when she gets back so try and hold onto that. She was obviously thinking of you when she left the book so she was trying to give some of her time to you in a roundabout way.





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Old 28-09-2019, 07:35 PM   #1284
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I don't know I'm just upset at how our relationship has broken down and now I've got to wait over two weeks to see her.

No one's approached me for one to one but oh well

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Old 28-09-2019, 11:05 PM   #1285
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Have you managed to approach anybody for a 1-1?





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Old 28-09-2019, 11:07 PM   #1286
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Was thinking about you earlier and just wondered...kind of the magic wand question, but what support do you think you need? In an ideal world type thing. Sounds like you don’t feel you’re getting support right now, so in a week, what would your support look like each day/week, whilst you’re in hospital?





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Old 28-09-2019, 11:08 PM   #1287
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No they were meant to approach me that's how the assistant psychologist left it

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Old 28-09-2019, 11:09 PM   #1288
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I appreciate that she said they might approach you, but what about you approaching them if they haven’t? Usually it’s not about staff not caring, but more about a lack of communication between different professionals.





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Old 28-09-2019, 11:11 PM   #1289
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And I suppose, if you’ve not asked for support and they know you’ve seen assistant psychologist today and are time stretched...perhaps they are prioritising the people who have asked for that interaction and maybe have not seen a professional today? (Playing devils advocate)





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Old 29-09-2019, 12:06 AM   #1290
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I don't think so. Plus I was told different.

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Old 29-09-2019, 12:37 AM   #1291
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Fair enough, that must feel pretty crap. What is your understanding of the situation? Do you think they wouldn’t prioritise people who haven’t spoken to someone, if they were short staffed? Or do you think they’re personally targeting you?

Suppose I’m just wondering because you said earlier the AP said she’d speak to staff and they might talk to you for 1-1 later, she didn’t promise it though so suppose I’m trying to understand why you can’t ask them? Is it about them ‘proving’ they care?





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Old 29-09-2019, 12:41 AM   #1292
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Btw, in no way am I saying it’s ok for you not to have had that time and in an ideal world the wards and staff would have that resource time to use and offer everybody. But in reality that’s not how it is, and I know that’s shit and can feel personal. But it really isn’t how the staff will see it. In reality I’ve only met a handful of staff who I’d say didn’t give a shot apart from getting paid etc





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Old 29-09-2019, 01:47 PM   #1293
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The staff haven't seemed particularly busy and the assistant psychologist did say she explained to staff how I was feeling and that my named nurse would come and talk to me but they never did and same again today no one has offered to talk to me and I'm not going to beg for it because it feels like that's all I do lately

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Old 29-09-2019, 04:26 PM   #1294
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How often are you supposed to get one to ones, do you know?





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Old 29-09-2019, 05:57 PM   #1295
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Every day they're meant to be offered to you by your named nurse. But that very rarely happens.

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Old 29-09-2019, 06:09 PM   #1296
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Is that in your care plan? Would you feel able to bring it up?





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Old 29-09-2019, 06:11 PM   #1297
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It is in my care plan yes. I don't know. I'm really not getting what I need from this hospital.

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Old 29-09-2019, 06:14 PM   #1298
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Do you still have contact with advocacy?





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Old 29-09-2019, 06:20 PM   #1299
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Yes they've been coming to my ward reviews

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Old 29-09-2019, 07:25 PM   #1300
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Do they not help you to bring up the things you need and what you're not finding useful?





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