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Hiya! Not sure if I can give any advice that you haven't already heard, but I'll try , and also I think I know how you feel to some extent at least. I can very much relate to a lot of the things you write, like how you feel that one bad choice actually affects the way you feel about yourself as a whole (if I understand you correctly). This, I think, is something that a lot of people struggle with (not that that in itself is helpful, I guess - you are you, and your problems are in some ways unique to you, as you are a unique person)
However, as a lot of people do have these thoughts, and most people aren't disgusting when perceived by others (although I do not know you personally, from reading your posts I don't think you're disgusting, I think you're absolutely lovely), it really is just something we're telling ourselves. Something which, in turn, may affect the way others see us, because we act to reinforce the way we see ourselves.
Like how you say that you feel you need to make sure no one thinks that you think you're pretty. This, I can relate to a lot. It's like, I now feel I'm not allowed to dress up nice, and wear the clothes I like, because I think that the people who are allowed to, say, wear dresses (I love dresses. Like, a lot. But, again, not allowing myself to wear them), are the people who are skinnier, prettier and all-round better people than me. And if I wear them, people might think that I think I'm prettier, skinnier and better than I really am. And it feels so ridiculous when I'm writing it down, because, really, it is ridiculous, but it feels so REAL at the same time.
I don't know what my point is. maybe I just wanted you to know you're not alone, but then, people have already posted saying that, so maybe that was silly of me.
Anyway: Regarding the bad choices you say you make. Those choices do not define you to the degree that you seem to think! Really! Because being healthy isn't about always making the right choices, that can go wrong as well. It's about learning to make the right choices more often than the bad ones. That takes time. And you're already doing it! You're doing really well, having healthy breakfasts and all, which is more than most people do, actually. So you have every reason to be proud of yourself.
Like some have already mentioned here, some forms of exercise can also help with body image, as it helps you focus on what your body can do, instead of what it looks like. Or feels like it looks like. See if you can find something you enjoy, and maybe something that allows for a bit of improvement with time, as it will help you set small and big goals for yourself, and reaching them will show you that not only is your body capable of a lot more than you probably thought, you also have a lot of potential to build on.
Maybe set goals one day at a time? Like, tell yourself that you just have to get through one day, and then the next day, and see if it gets easier with time. Also, I don't know if your bingeing is related to stress, or what triggers it, but being prepared for those triggers, and having a distraction ready in advance might help?
Ok, don't know if this was any help, and it was very long, but I wish you luck, and I think you're already on a good path (and if you didn't stray a bit you wouldn't be human, you would be a scary perfect robot and that would be bad). I think you are very strong, and remember there are a lot of people who care about you, and who see more in you than what you're seeing at the moment.
Take care, love, K
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