Brambles - I'm sorry it's hard being at home. I wonder if it's not that your partner doesn't understand, but just that he's feeling a little bit out of his depth? You've been very poorly and in hospital for a while, so like you need time to adjust to being out of hospital, he needs that too. Are you able to talk to him about how you are feeling?
Hey Mark *hugs* Not good at all today :( Reached a point with my girlfriend where she has told me some things about herself which I know is just her, but it is just going to be a massive personality clash, and I don't think I will be able to cope with it. She's polyamorus which will just be a major problem, because I am already a very jealous person, and with her feeling the same about other people at the same time, it's just going to be one big trigger for abandonment fears. I don't know if I will be able to cope with the anxiety and the fears, but at the same time, she is perfect and such a lovely person, and I can't afford to let her go out of my life. So I'm a bit lost.
oh Stuart thats a tough one. I have a friend who is polyamourous and she is so happy but that can only happen if everyone is ok with it. I know personally i couldn't do it.
brambles i'm so sorry your partner isn't understanding. have you explained how you feel? Some people are just scared by mental health because they don't understand, and it can be scary to see a loved one go through these things.
umm well i managed to get some tidying and hoovering and i have a lovely mop dog with me :D
That sucks Stuart - i dont know much about it just checking out what it is on google so excuse me if i get something wrong. Is there anyway she can be with only you? or is her feelings too strong with other people too? It wasnt clear on Wiki.
Ohh Have fun lottie :)
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Ballerina123 - My lovely superstar
Call me R -
The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time - Abraham Lincoln
I don't know, he just has no compassion. He doesn't seem to realise the effect MH can have on people. For instance when I was first admitted, he came to take me out for a couple of hours. Obviously I was still quite unwell, and was really, really low. He said "Smile! You look Miserable"...... And when I was really ill and had a full blown manic/psychotic episode (I'm diagnosed Bipolar I), afterwards(when I had been brought back down from the episode, a couple of weeks later) he was laughing at me and making fun of me. Which was really mean and unfair, because I had zero insight or control at the time.
hmm sounds hard brambles, have you tried explaining to him how this makes you feel? He might just be trying to cope with your MH and not realise he's hurting you?
Thank you everyone *hugs* It was a bit of a misunderstanding on my part I think. She was saying that she is poly but she only wants to be with me, it was that she was having some small feelings for her ex (we got together soon after they broke up, so she is still getting over it). I can live with that, so hoping it will be ok.
Mark - I'm afraid I don't know the answer to that because I'm trying to do the same (well, reckless driving instead of booze), but am struggling with it too. So *hugs*, I know how you feel and I hope you find something (good) that can replace booze and SH for you *hugs*
Bramble - Congrats on getting out of hospital! *hugs* Sorry that your partner isn't understanding. Maybe he isn't sure how to react to your mental illness, and this is his way of coping with it? It doesn't make it alright for him to act like that though, and maybe it's worth having a chat with him and letting him know how you feel. *hugs*
Hey guys,
Stuart, that's great news that he wants to be with you only. Hopefully her feelings for her ex will go soon :)
Brambles- have you had a nice weekend home? Get up to anything exciting? Is there anyway you could take ur husband into one of ur therapy sessions so u and ur therapist can try to explain to him what's going on?
Sorry Mark I have no idea. How are you doing today though?
Just on my way to see my dad and my cute doggy :). Feeling a bit nervous- surrounded by tons of people. Eeeeeh.
Hope everyone is okay :) x
Ballerina123 - My lovely superstar
Call me R -
The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time - Abraham Lincoln
I don't have therapy at the unit. I could ask one of the psych nurses to speak to him, but he'd only get hurt and go in a mood and huff.
Had a great weekend. I used to get paid to ride this guys horses, so I went up to visit him and ride his new youngster. I've got a lesson booked tomorrow which my fiance isn't happy with. I've got a job riding and competing horses, so he thinks it's daft I should pay to ride. But I've not really ridden for about a year (because of having the baby, and being ill) so I badly need lessons, and I don't want it to be from the guy I ride for (a different one, back home as am at IL's now). So riding again tomorrow. And we're off to the cinema tonight :)
no idea how or why but i do remember mop dog licking my face to death several times
