Military and Marriage
So I am wanting to join the National Guard, but my fiance doesn't want me to. We've had this discussion a couple of times and whenever we talk about it she breaks down crying and says shell leave me if I do. Her reasoning is that "she doesn't want a husband and father of our kids that could potentially be gone for some of the important events in our kids lives. The reason she's like this is because her father passed away when she was young and doesn't want me to be gone for our kids lives. I keep trying to rationalize with her that I wont be gone all the time. While I understand where shes coming from, its something that I feel compelled to do. I feel like I owe it to my country and to protect my family. I just need help in deciding on if I should go through with it. And if so, how do I tell her so that maybe she'll understand? I love her and don't want to lose her, but this is also something that I really want to do.