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19-09-2009, 07:57 PM
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*Ashleigh*
Join Date: Jun 2007
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Together or apart?
Basically, I just want to know what people think about staying together for the sake of the kids.
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years and we have a 15 month old, but I don't know whether or not I want to be with him. I don't trust him at all and, as horrible as this sounds, I feel like I'm only with him because I have no other choice. Obviously, we could break up, but I'm terrified of being a single parent. I'm afraid of how I'd cope alone and right now I have so much else to deal with that I just don't think I could cope with a split on top of everything else.
I feel like I've turned into this nasty person since I've met him. I dunno. I know there's fault on both our parts. He lies to me about 'small' things. I over-react. I don't want my child to be brought up with separated parents, but I also want to be happy. I know I should work on the relationship, I'm just don't know if it's worth it.
Sorry, rambled.
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19-09-2009, 08:31 PM
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Loon NOS
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Nottingham
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My point of view is don't try and stay together for the kids. About 5 years of my parents marriage was trying to stay together because they were Catholics and it was hell. obviously hiding things from a toddler is going to be easier, but I still feel that kids pick up on these things and the truth will out eventually.
What is it about separated parents that concerns you so much? I think you have the right to be happy and I also think that happy parents are much more likely to have happy children, even if their family situation might not be your "normal" one (though with 1/3 of marriages ending in divorce it's hardly like separation is abnormal nowadays)
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Reality leaves a lot to the imagination
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20-09-2009, 01:06 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Wiltshire UK
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I don't agree with staying together for the kids. It's no good on you, or your child. It's always worrying and upsetting thinking oh my child isn't going to have that family unit etc. But, at the end of the day, it's better to be separate and happy, then together and not be. Though, you may do your best to hide your relationship problems from your child, they still pick up on these things.
I do think, it would be a good idea to sit down and have a good chat about your feelings and things with your partner.
Being a single parent is hard work, but then being a parent in general is. I've been a single parent pretty much since my daughter was born, she's now 2. You'll cope fine if it comes to that.
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It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
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20-09-2009, 07:14 PM
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~Approachable and fit (apparently)~
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: England
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No, I don't think you should just stay together for the sake of a child as the child will be able to sense that you aren't really happy together. I think you should only stay together if you are happy with eachother regardless of whether there is a child or not.
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20-09-2009, 08:52 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: UK
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I don't think you should 'stay together for the kids'. Like others have said, a child can pick up on it, especially as they get older and a split would probably be harder for them the older they get too.
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Life can be beautiful if you let it.
Step back, breathe and take it in
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20-09-2009, 10:26 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: UK
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I don't think people should stay together for their child/children.
Look at this way, your son is going to be loved by BOTH his parents even if they aren't together.
I think you and Mike need to sit down and talk things through. Things are going to be hard right now, your going through alot with your sister/family and the loss you have both suffered. All issues are going to be putting a strain on your relationship. Things might get better when things are a little calmer, but only you can decide that and only you can decide if you want to be with him or not.
It'll be ok, whatever happens. xxx
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