As many people know, I did have a relationship with an RYLer a few years back & it was pretty good while it lasted but didn't end brilliantly and we no longer speak.
I think it has its plus and minus points & there are some very cute couples who've come from here. :)
I don't think I'd be able to handle double the mental...
That's the only thing I'd worry about. I've been with/seen other people outside of RYL who are a tad mental like me, and it did make things difficult!
But I completely agree with having someone know all the **** about you first, if someone knows all my "baggage" and still wants to be with me, then that's pretty nice. In some ways it's better than someone finding out further down the line, not being able to handle it, and then you getting hurt.
I'd never date anyone on RYL. I quite like having a non mental boyfriend. I couldn't cope with someone who was also depressed and self harming. My first boyfriend was all sorts of crazy and he signed up to RYL for a while and then when we broke up he kept posting bad **** about me to the forums.
Then he got permabanned so it was all good.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
I'd never date anyone on RYL. I quite like having a non mental boyfriend. I couldn't cope with someone who was also depressed and self harming.
This basically. Just no!
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
there are some very cute couples who've come from here. :)
I was once told good looking people are more neurotic that most people on the whole. That might be true since RYL has had some of the best looking girls I've seen anywhere - better than a lot of movie stars.
I tried being in a relationship with someone from here after I let him come stay with me while he put his life together. It was a miserable on/off thing for a couple of years. I'm glad things have worked out better for others. I won't say much more about him since he may occasionally lurk.
I find it kinda hard tbh.
Sometimes i'll read stuff on here and get texts from the boyfriend when he's not feeling great and im just like, I really, really, can't deal with this and I end up shutting off from everyone. I want to help, but I can't.
I do sometimes think there isn't room for two unwell people in a relationship, like i know i can get quite bad, and if he was not feeling good either, then it really wouldn't work. We only see each other at weekends at the moment so haven't really encountered a problem such as this!
So, those are my thoughts, all jokes and inappropriate humour aside.
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
Beckie, I think it's really important to have a good support network of friends and to also be able to set boundaries.
So for example, when Jodie 'out-woes' me (so to speak), I know that it's not the time for my woe and can step back, maybe woe at someone else via text and then put my woes aside and take care of her for a bit. And it works the other way too. For example when I was very physically unwell, Jodie struggled a lot with the feeling that it was her fault and was being ALL the fliddy, but she was really sensible and called the crisis team for a chat, because she knew I needed her to be strong for me.
It's hard, but if you're open with one another and make sure you don't become eachother's only support, then it can work really well :)
I know Rob has called other people to call me when I have my little crazy episodes.
I don't know if thats because he cant deal with me or he thinks I would rather talk to them.
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
