I can imagine what a tough situation this is for you, and the 37 million other families around the world this might also potentially affect.
Firstly, as you said, it is not in itself any proof that he was ever unfaithful, had an affair, or even pursued any such course of action in any way.
I would say the fact that the address/zip code is not one that is recognizable suggests that there was never any intention of using the service to set-up any actual liaisons. If someone was planning to meet up with someone else, then they couldn't use an address far away (unless it was a work travel destination etc)
Very long term relationships, especially with someone who you've been with exclusively since young can lead to some tricky conflicts. If/when the passion is lost and companionship takes over - curiosity...that feel if the grass being greener, is a well known conflict. Many of course don't act, some do - and I would well imagine there are also some 'inbetweeners'.
I don't support the morals behind that website one tiny bit, but it serves a need that would exist whether or not it did. I've recently heard the founder defend the sites position that having an affair can save marriages. It's shaky ground for me, but there might be something in it.
If someone is in a very long term, committed relationship and for one reason or another are not getting what they need in some way - then they have three choices. Discuss and hope to change things with their partner, ignore it completely and suppress those needs, or attempt to provide for those needs outside the marriage. Kids etc complicate things further of course.
Window shopping on adultery websites could may be put in the same category as looking at porn. Something the spouse might very well not like, feel threatened by, even feel betrayed by - but which happens in a lot of marriages which would could break down if it wasn't to happen. It's bending the rules to keep things together rather than breaking them perhaps.
I think, unless the address marked is near 'his regional office' which he used to travel to or something then you can put this down as window shopping/curiosity at most and move on - it was likely a long time ago and since then, other major changes have improved/solved the conflicts which might have caused the need.
But, as with every single family caught up in this mess - you have every right to know, and ask if you feel that is what you need to move on from this. You shouldn't feel any guilt for this - and in most cases like yours rational, reasonable explanations will be able to be given.
Hope that helps a bit - good luck
Harley
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