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Old 24-11-2018, 02:46 PM   #1
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Weight obsession

When I was in hospital a patient thought I was in for an ED. I have gained x since then. People around me want me to gain y. I want to lose z. But if I don't eat enough my meds won't work as well. I don't know why I care so much. What do I do?

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Old 25-11-2018, 06:08 AM   #2
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Reach out. Talk to people.
Posting here is a good first step.

I know it is easier said than done, but your wellbeing is A LOT more important than your weight.

One thing I can tell you for sure is that not weighing yourself helps a lot. It can be tricky at first, but once you get used to not knowing your weight it is easier to not obsess about it.



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Old 25-11-2018, 10:24 PM   #3
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One thing I can tell you for sure is that not weighing yourself helps a lot. It can be tricky at first, but once you get used to not knowing your weight it is easier to not obsess about it.
Just wanted to jump in and say that this is so so true! For me it was a hugely important factor in recovering, and even now I know that staying recovered would become so much more difficult if I weighed myself. Scales are for fish (and piano exams)!



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Old 26-11-2018, 05:26 PM   #4
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I weighed myself. I have gained weight. When I looked in the mirror I was huge. I told Mum my ideal weight and she said it was too low and if I don't eat enough my meds won't work properly. I really want to stay well but for me restricting = control.

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I think I will tell my CPN I want this. What do you think?


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Old 27-11-2018, 05:18 AM   #5
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Telling your CPN sounds like a really good idea. What do you think about the suggestion of not weighing yourself?

Sounds to me like the best way to work on things staying in control and stable would be eating so your meds can work. I know it can really suck, as I'm in a similar place with what I take (though what I take is hormones). When my eating gets bad, my levels are off because my body cannot process it correctly. When my eating is better my levels are closer to where they are supposed to be.

I've also found that once I stop weighing myself it is much easier to disengage from thoughts surrounding size, weight, and shape. I also cover mirrors when things are really bad so the only part of myself that is visible is my face. While this isn't a great long term solution, it can help when your body image is especially terrible.



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Old 27-11-2018, 12:37 PM   #6
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I will try not to weigh myself but my CPN will want to know my weight.

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Old 28-11-2018, 12:36 AM   #7
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Can you tell your CPN that it is unhelpful for you to know the number? Most medical offices can do blind weights on request, and both my old therapists were able to do them too (and sometimes had to). So if they need a number, there are safer ways to get it than you doing it yourself.



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Old 29-11-2018, 07:03 PM   #8
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I'm just going to not weigh myself and tell my CPN I don't want him to weigh me either.

I had a GP appointment today. My CPN had asked them to prescribe me Fresubins (nutritional drinks) so I've got them now. I'm a bit nervous about taking them.

My parents say I'm not to exercise if I don't eat a little more. To be honest I would rather stick with how much I am eating and not exercise. Obviously they can't stop me exercising but I don't want the confrontation.

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Old 01-12-2018, 12:42 PM   #9
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I'm glad you've decided to not weigh yourself and I hope you manage to take some fresubins at times when you've not eaten enough. Remember that you want to be well, and for that to happen you have to be looking after yourself and eating well so that your medication can work properly.



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Old 04-12-2018, 03:39 PM   #10
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Saw my CPN. He warned against substituting real food for Fresubins, said I should have both and that I am eating the minimum. He warned against the mental and physical impact of losing weight or eating less. He also said that i should feel in control by choosing healthy things. He was ok with not weighing me.

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I’m glad he was ok with not weighing you. It sounds like he was giving you some good advice; how do you feel about it?



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Old 06-12-2018, 04:27 PM   #12
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Yeah, everyone is talking sense but it's hard to mend my ways.

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Old 09-12-2018, 04:04 PM   #13
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I’m glad you’ve got people around you talking lots of sense. Keeping listening to them and asking for help. You can’t change ED habits and thought processes overnight but you can gradually get rid of them by fighting hard for recovery and holding on to the sensible people in your life who say sensible things.



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