Hello everybody! I am new to this forum. It feels like a safe place tho.
Now, to the problem. I am a 16 year old girl who stupidly, committed a crime.
Shoplifted, aaand got caught. Yeah I know, I hate myself too. This is the first crume I have ever done and I truly don’t know why I did it. I guess that I just wanted to look cool in front of my friends.
I regret it so fricking much. Words can’t describe how much I regret it. It was a stupid, impulsive desicion in the moment and it won’t ever EVER happend again.
My dad isn’t mad at me. Sure, he thinks that it was very stupid of me, but he hasn’t yelled at me. As a matter of fact, we haven’t talked about it much at all.
I kind of know the qonsecuences now, I will need to go to a meeting with the police with my dad soon.
I am going to the social services station on tuesday too.
I’m really sad, angry and anxious. I haven’t gone out of the house since it happend. I just feel so fricking bad about it.
I know that it will NEVER happend again so I won’t do it again never ever, but its eating me alive. I put myself in this position. I put myself in this situation.
Im just scared shittless of what the social services will say. Me and my family have never had problems with them before. This is the first time I have done anything like this. I don’t blame anyone, only myself.
I would really appreciate any reassuring words or any advice that you have. Idk.
I live in Sweden brw, if that matters.
That sounds really tough.
we all make mistakes in life, it doesn’t define who we are.
I have also had experience with the police and I can understand the overwhelming regret you are feeling.
It won’t change anything though. All you can do is try and work with social services so maybe you can work out why you did it and prevent it from happening again, though it sounds like you’re set on not doing it again anyway.
Have you told anyone about how bad you’re feeling?
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
That sounds really tough.
we all make mistakes in life, it doesn’t define who we are.
I have also had experience with the police and I can understand the overwhelming regret you are feeling.
It won’t change anything though. All you can do is try and work with social services so maybe you can work out why you did it and prevent it from happening again, though it sounds like you’re set on not doing it again anyway.
Have you told anyone about how bad you’re feeling?
No, talking to anybody is not an option. I have really great parents but I probably won’t talk to them about this. I don’t want to cause any more trouble for anyone ever again, including for myself. Yikes. Im really scared from the social workers.
Like, they actually fucking scare me. I’ve heard about people that got in trouble with them once, and never got out of there. I have planned what im about to tell them, i am kind of prepared but im still so anxious about the whole thing. It sucks, it really does. I wont do something like this ever again. I wish i had just walked out when i had the chance. What is done is done
Hey, it's okay. You're 16 and you acted on impulse and stole something. I Think most of us have been there and done that sort of thing. I have. But fortunately for me i never Got caught. As teenagers we tend to sometimes make some bad decisions because we want to be like our friends or because we want a certain group of people to like us. The important thing here is that you regeret it, that you realise this was a mistake and that you are prepared to not repeat that kind of mistake again. It's easy to let the guilt of past mistakes eat you up but please don't do that to yourself!!! It was just that, a bad decision in the spur of the moment and a mistake.
I'm in Denmark and i Think our systems have some similarities. I am pretty sure that nothing really bad is going to happen from that meeting. I Think they are held to assess whether something else might be at play, like a greater risk of exposing yourself to more criminal behaviour, or to establish whether or not you are being neglected at home. Which from the Sound of it sounds quite unlikely. So i really don't Think you have to be so scared. They'll probably warn you, it might go on your criminal record for a while and then they'll likely just send you home.
Please don't freak out. It was one bad decision. It's not the end of the world. Like i Said, a lot of us have been there and done the same. Most of us turned out to be quite alright people in spite of that. And so Will you!!!
Hey, it's okay. You're 16 and you acted on impulse and stole something. I Think most of us have been there and done that sort of thing. I have. But fortunately for me i never Got caught. As teenagers we tend to sometimes make some bad decisions because we want to be like our friends or because we want a certain group of people to like us. The important thing here is that you regeret it, that you realise this was a mistake and that you are prepared to not repeat that kind of mistake again. It's easy to let the guilt of past mistakes eat you up but please don't do that to yourself!!! It was just that, a bad decision in the spur of the moment and a mistake.
I'm in Denmark and i Think our systems have some similarities. I am pretty sure that nothing really bad is going to happen from that meeting. I Think they are held to assess whether something else might be at play, like a greater risk of exposing yourself to more criminal behaviour, or to establish whether or not you are being neglected at home. Which from the Sound of it sounds quite unlikely. So i really don't Think you have to be so scared. They'll probably warn you, it might go on your criminal record for a while and then they'll likely just send you home.
Please don't freak out. It was one bad decision. It's not the end of the world. Like i Said, a lot of us have been there and done the same. Most of us turned out to be quite alright people in spite of that. And so Will you!!!
Actually the record isn't a problem LIke, at all. Im just scared that I'll get community service, or get sent to court. Court and community service really, really scare me.