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Old 12-09-2019, 06:02 PM   #21
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None of this is your fault and self harming definitely won't make anything better for your sister, or for you.

I think just you sitting with your sister will be a great help. She knows you're there for her.





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Old 12-09-2019, 06:54 PM   #22
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For me when I feel like that I find it helpful to minimize sensory input as much as possible. So quiet, less light, and being wrapped up in blankets with as many comfort items as possible. Snuggling with animals. Not having to be forced to communicate and keeping interaction and decision making very simple (think yes/no only so you can easily just nod or shake your head). I have been told by friends before that they have had to take my keys to my car and do things like that to make sure I stay put.

Everyone is different though. Do you know what she finds comforting? Does she have a special stuffed animal or blanket? Does she like fairy lights? Anything of that nature can be helpful.



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Old 12-09-2019, 08:26 PM   #23
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She wanted to leave the house again so I gave her a big hug until she calmed down enough to have a cigarette and some PRN. She's out for a walk now with Mum. If that doesn't help she'll probably end up at a&e. The referral to the crisis house didn't get finished so that is not an option.

I prayed for my sister, had a little cry.



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Old 13-09-2019, 12:58 PM   #24
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Did you find it helpful to pray? It's ok to cry too, do whatever safe things you need to do.

How are things today for you both?





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Old 13-09-2019, 01:18 PM   #25
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She seems a bit calmer today but still very suicidal. She's hoping to see her psych to really talk about everything and come up with a workable plan. She's arranged to meet a friend tomorrow and asked us to remind her when she struggles that she has that to look forward to.

Praying did help. I've thought about texting my CPN but I don't want him to think being around N is bad for me, when really I find it helpful.



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Old 13-09-2019, 02:56 PM   #26
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She's going out for a walk with Mum. I'm scared she won't come back.



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Old 13-09-2019, 03:28 PM   #27
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I've gone through my coping skills. It's not that I want to hurt myself, I just keep worrying about my sister. I'm watching telly to distract. Any advice?



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Old 13-09-2019, 03:44 PM   #28
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News on my sister. She and Mum have gone to Costa which should be reassuring but it is right next to the multi storey.

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Old 13-09-2019, 03:55 PM   #29
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I think it's okay to reach out to your own providers if you are struggling to deal with things. I think they would get that she's not a bad influence on you, it's just that because you care it is a lot of added stress and responsibility. I'm glad your family is so supportive of one another.



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Old 13-09-2019, 04:19 PM   #30
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You have to look after yourself too, if you need some support then please ask your CPN or your family. You matter.





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Old 13-09-2019, 04:49 PM   #31
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I texted my CPN at 4, haven't heard back.

She's been picked up by police on a 136. It may sound bad but I'm sort of hoping she will be sectioned to hospital so she can be safe. If she's admitted voluntarily she will just leave and go through with her plan. Mind you I'm not convinced our local hospital will keep her safe even on a section. I suppose I will just have to wait and see.



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Old 13-09-2019, 06:09 PM   #32
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I'm glad you text your CPN, did he get back to you at all? It doesn't sound bad that you want your sister to be sectioned, you're not thinking that because of a malicious reason you obviously want her to be safe. I hope that whatever happens she is looked after.





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Old 13-09-2019, 06:21 PM   #33
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No I didn't hear back. I'm sure my family will help me over the weekend.



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Old 13-09-2019, 07:01 PM   #34
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I'm glad you have a supportive family. Do you have anything planned for over the weekend?





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Old 13-09-2019, 07:03 PM   #35
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My older sister is coming for coffee tomorrow afternoon and I'm going to church in the evening. Apart from that I'm just waiting to hear about N.



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Old 14-09-2019, 03:35 AM   #36
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N has been sectioned they're just looking for a bed. I really hope it's not too far away and that they take her risk seriously.



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Old 14-09-2019, 04:18 AM   #37
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I spoke to N, apparently they're reassessing her in the morning because they can't find a bed. This is so frustrating!



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Old 14-09-2019, 01:22 PM   #38
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They've found her a bed in our local ward. She won't have leave until she sees the psych which means Monday at the earliest. I think this is good news, for now anyway.



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Old 14-09-2019, 01:41 PM   #39
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Hopefully she'll be able to stay safe there and it will take the pressure off you and your family a little too. It must be exhausting for all of you.

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The AMHP started to talk about a voluntary admission but my mum pointed out how unsafe that would be. She's gone to the 136 suite to drop off clothes and snacks and hopefully I can visit tomorrow.

I told L and Mum about unsafe thoughts and they have been supportive.



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