This is going to sounds bizarra, but recovery is it all good?
Iv recovered or i thought i had. The self-harm has stopped completely and i want to feel proud but i dont. I just feel this great sense of loss because as times gone on since my last cut and as the counselling has progressed iv changed, as a person iv changed ALOT.
I actually dont like who iv become i prefere who i used to be. The Danielle that if my name was mentioned people knew me, i was the one that came to school drunk or said exactly what was on her mind, never let anyone talk to her wrong because she was perminantly angry and waiting to snap at the first person who spoke to her. I had personality and people liked me for it, jealous even that i could be so bold and not care what other people sore or didnt see.
My SH was never public that was mine but other than that everyone knew i had problems, and i was left to do my own thing.
Since the SH stopped iv become this quite girl, never in trouble, started college where nobody knows what i was like before, so nobody's noticed its not me and iv lost my personality, i blend into the background now, im boring and dull, dont want to go out partying because im scared of what happens when i drink.
I get drunk and ill be honest ill sleep with anyone and i never used to care what i did while drunk or what danger i might have been in, just so long as i was having fun at the time. Now im too scared to drink anything because im scared id get myself into something dangerous. This might seem like a good thing i understand danger and alcohol wise it is but its the change in personality im focused on.
I split from my abusive boyfriend last May and we are still awaiting cort dates all this time later, but also the damage he's done to me is starting to show. He's not even in my life anymore and im scared to do the things that made me me because of him because he's made me believe so firmly that im worthless and that i cant behave like that.
I was worth so much more before i meet him, whatever problems i had back then i faced them and i had fun did things with my life, now its all about uni and working and boring old day in day old crap and im scared ill never find the me that my ex has buried and that nobody else will ever get to meet the real me, that ill never get to see the real me again.
My counselling stops next months im all better apparently.
Do i sounds better??
Have i gone for good??
Is this really what recovery is like??
Will i always be under my X's emotional control??
I just dont get any of it and i ignore it and refuse to think about it because im so scared of the depression grabbing hold of me again, but tell the truth i think its too late i think its got me already.
i need your help with this one guys i just dont know what to do