Triggering (SI) - Ex Boyfriend... Triggering maybe
I was just speaking to my ex... we stayed friends, mostly so he could keep an eye on me I think and he told me that today he cut himself after an arguement with his dad.
I am so so worried for him, I care about him and I don't want to see him take this road. I've done all the things I've always found a comfort and told him that I'm always here... he wanted to hear the bad side of cutting from me again so I told him everything I could think of but I don't think it's worked, it never worked for me so why should it be different for him? He won't talk about what made him do it, he won't talk to me about it much at all cos he says he's scared of triggering me. But I just don't know what to think.
I know self harm isn't contagious, he can't have "caught" it but what if I planeted the idea in his head? What if, if he'd never met me at all, if I'd never told him about my self harm... it'd have never crossed his mind. I've always worryed about triggering people who know and this has nothing but confirm that I should have worryed.
I don't know what to do. I'm so upset that someone I care about could want to do this, which is stupid because thats obviously how my friends feel and stuff but especially after he's watched me destroy myself. How can I tell him this isn't the only way, and not be a total hypocrite? Because really, that's all I am. To tell him this doesnt solve anything when I can't stop myself? I don't know what to do, I don't know what to say to him... I'm so confused, and upset, and guilty. Argh. =[
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