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Old 27-04-2015, 06:08 PM   #1
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ignorant comments

Ive recently been attempting to eat more (at my worst i was eating very little. ive gotten back to healthy looking weight, through a very strict diet and have since been entrusted to make sure i eat enough to keep myself healthy. Today i decided to take a chance and eat in public- in front of people. i wanted to feel a sense of normalicy. I got some food. in my opinion i ate too much, but as i was throwing away what was left, i got multiple comments about how little i had eaten; one going as far as to ask if i had anything at all. i would understand if these comments were coming from people that understood what i am going through, and if they were coming from a place of concern, but their comments felt like an attack: as if i wasnt normal enough. i felt terrible from as much as i ate, then they made me feel like i should have eaten more. i dont feel like i can win.
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(Keep in mind i called them ignorant because they didnt know, but that doesnt make their comments any less harmful.)


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Old 28-04-2015, 03:38 PM   #2
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I have also had a lot of experiences like that. I'm sorry you felt so judged- it can feel so awful, even when the judging comes from concern. Just thought I'd let you know, the rules say no numbers (weight, calories) etc. Nothing personal to you- it's an everyone thing



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Old 29-04-2015, 12:46 AM   #3
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yeah, I've been warned. do you have any advice for dealing with the comment, littlecloud?

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Old 29-04-2015, 11:01 AM   #4
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I'd say just do what you can. People who care worry, but like you said you are so unfamiliar with eating more. You need to give yourself credit for trying. Just try to push a little further each time



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Old 29-04-2015, 12:20 PM   #5
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Ahhh I'm really sorry you felt like that, it can be really disheartening to hear comments like that when actually you're going through a journey, and to even be here today you're doing incredible. Never doubt yourself or how far you have come. :)

I think if the people who made the comments had any idea how their words affected you, they would be mortified .. I'm not justifying their comments at alllll, I just think people have a tendency to not think about why they're about to say.. Or how long their words can stay in someone's mind.

You keep on doing the best you can, that's all anyone can do!
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Most of all, remember to smile each and every day.

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