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Old 02-01-2009, 04:02 PM   #1
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Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - Bathing

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Each day when I wake up, I keep finding things to do instead of having a bath... Its only when I run out of things to do that I'm forced to do it. Its not that I don't like to be clean.. I hate that feeling of being dirty! Its just the fact of having to take your clothes off... and being vunerable for that time... Having to touch your body.... and some stuff happened there... Plus feel unsafe when bathing because two of the abusers live with me still!



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Old 02-01-2009, 04:11 PM   #2
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I can relate... at home we have a shower, which I generally find a little easier... but I always put it off and can only have one if I know my boyfriend is in our flat... can't do it if alone...
I also find that having a lock on the door helps...

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Old 02-01-2009, 05:38 PM   #3
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Bathing is something I really struggle with as well, I usually shower.

However, these are somethings that have helped me.

I usually shower/bathe with the lights off. However, you do have to make sure that you know where everything is beforehand.

When I'm really having problems, I have showered or bathed with a swimsuit on. There are a handful of occasions that I wore a camisole and a pair of almost worn out shorts to bathe or shower in. This isn't a terribly good idea, because it limits the amount of skin you can clean.

Another idea is to have yourself hold a washcloth to touch yourself. That seems to help me since it's textile/skin not skin on skin. It takes a bit of practice though.

So yeah, I hope that's able to help you. And really, journaling about my feelings and about being clean has really helped me to deal with things.



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Old 02-01-2009, 09:07 PM   #4
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I find bathing in a swimsuit really helps too...I have anorexia as well so really bad body image issues and it also helps with coping with the SA memories etc if I am sort of covered up.

Having to touch yourself is a tricky one...maybe you could focus on the parts of our body that you feel safe with first and then move to the more difficult ones?

Also try to keep telling yourself,that the abuse was not your fault because I can promise you it really wasn't.Putting a lock on the bathroom door is also a good idea if there isn't one there,it should help you feel safer if you are sure no-one can get in.Maybe you could also try to set a routine of when you are going to have a bath/shower so eventually it becomes just another daily chore sort of thing.

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Old 02-01-2009, 09:16 PM   #5
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Yep, I find I have the same problem. It seems to be a bit easier if I shower as I can be done much quicker and so spend less time undressed.

While it sounds disgusting, I shower every 2-3 days unless I absolutely have to daily. Can't cope with more than that ><


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Old 02-01-2009, 09:44 PM   #6
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baths freaked me out for a long time.
because some sa stuff happened there.
i have them very rarely. plus theres not an option for a bath at uni, its a shower.

but every now and again i have a bath. but i have the shower curtain pulled round the bath, and so many bubbles that i can barely see me.

its got easier with time aswell



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Old 02-01-2009, 09:45 PM   #7
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I identify with so much that everybody has said, my only other advice is that I find putting on music helps me calm down while I'm having a bath/shower.



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