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Old 14-07-2009, 02:58 AM   #1
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Triggering (Abuse) - So worried for her...

My girlfriend and I were talking about something and I said something about traumatic experiences. She said, "Let's not go there." Then she said that it must have been a dream, that her mom doesn't remember it so it must not have happened.

I'm worried that she might have been abused by a past boyfriend, but she won't tell me. I love her, I want to help her. I realize abuse victims need to heal on their own time, but I'm just worried about her... Can someone please give me advice? Right now all I can do is support her, I know. I just....-sigh- I'm so worried.

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Old 14-07-2009, 05:38 AM   #2
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I think that you should just tell her that you are there for her and reinforce how much you love her and that you will listen without judging whenever she is ready to talk. Getting her to see a counsellor when she is ready would be a good idea too. Just be patient and don't push her to talk about it if she is not ready. Big hugs and telling her you love her doesn't go astray either.

Sometimes traumatic events get buried in the subconcious because they are too painful to remember. Perhaps she just isn't ready to deal with the trauma just yet.



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Old 14-07-2009, 09:43 AM   #3
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I agree make sure she knows that if she wants to talk you are there for her whether she is sure about if something has happened or not. Thtas all you can do really, it is up to her if she wants to talk about it or not.



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Old 14-07-2009, 08:39 PM   #4
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I talked to her. She said that she really doesn't want to talk about it, and I told her I understood and that is she ever did, I'm here for her. That's all I can do for now.

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Old 15-07-2009, 02:42 PM   #5
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Good on youf ro being so caring accepting her feelings on it. It makes you a very strong person.
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